There is some truth in what you say--comments as these can sometimes be unhelpful. I'll offer an alternative view though: As a caregiver for a spouse with a grave medical condition, the fact that family and friends expressed concern for me touched my heart and spirit. Some of these statements helped me overcome feelings of guilt and inadequacy by acknowledging that it is okay to find time for yourself or to ask for help. To be fair, the people in our lives making caring comments often then took action to help us through the difficult times.

Thanks for raising the issue--good to reflect on!

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