kartwk- Your situation sounds extremely frustrating with no solution at hand. My husband was a very stubborn man also. One time, he had bronchitis with a fever heading toward 105. I had refused to take any medication. I called a nurse friend who said to get him under a cool shower and threatened him to call an ambulance to get him to a hospital to treat him and not return him until he was well. lol I got as far as getting Tylenol down his throat and got the fever down.

In all seriousness, at times like this, his stubbornness has to be matched. Have you called his PCP and discussed his anger issues and refusal to cooperate with expert suggestions? He might need an anti-depressant.

If his PCP isn't aware of his stubbornness and hasn't been tested for Alzheimer's disease (Doctors usually begin testing for Alzheimer's at 65 years of age if there are no signs before this).

Also, Becky asked a fundamental question. Does your husband seem clear-minded? Is he confused? Has he been tested for Alzheimer's disease? Are you able to put him in a nursing home?