Hello llynch,
I had exactly the same problem and was prescribed the same treatment.
Except that I also had pelvic floor physical therapy. I do use the estrogen cream twice a week and use the coconut oil the other days. It works.
I wasn’t afraid of the estrogen cream as it doesn’t have the same risks as oral estrogen.
I was glad to see your post as no one talks about this problem. They don’t tell you that menopause never ends and can create medical conditions that must be addressed.