Are any other seniors experiencing a need to cry more often?
I'm 71 and have started crying "at the drop of a hat." Hearing the news or watching the worst of the human condition unfold in a movie usually triggers it. And once I get started, it's hard to stop.
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As I read this, I felt the same way. And you know, I walk around thinking I am the only one and that increases my feeling of isolation.
My sons, sometimes I think they are generous and kind to me, and sometimes I think they do not do enough to keep in touch, and I'm resentful. The difference is me, which doesn't help me change it. It actually makes me irritated that, on top of everything else, it's my fault? LOL
But you can't stay there forever, and things do change. I can feel better sometimes and when I am at my worst it helps to remember that. My best wishes to you. Life is not easy.
Thank you for this post! It is hard to remember that the “news” only exposes us to the worst of humanity and the world … then gives us 20 seconds of something good! They should reverse those percentages. Most people are good human beings with compassion for others. I watch news for the weather, and our small local station for community events. Then I’m done with it!
Probably your medicine that is causing your crying spells……try “crying out” to GOD. Tell GOD your cares because HE cares for you. Come to ME all those who are weak and heavy laden and I will give you rest. JESUS is calling you!
I too am a”cryer”. Think it is cleansing & seems to provide insight for me. Rabbi Liebman in his book “Peace of Mind” said “ we are given tear ducts to use.” I believe crying can serve a purpose.
Hi there, I’m sorry you feel too emotional. I don’t think it’s necessarily your age, though. I’m 41 and I take a lot of medications to manage all my illnesses. I find myself sneaking time away to cry. I will feel lonely and isolated and forgotten, too. I try to remember that chemicals effect our brain chemistry and the heavy emotions are a side effect that will pass. I tell myself that the tears are cleansing and it means I’m releasing that which no longer serves me, and pain is weakness leaving the body. I agree with @dawnfensterbusch on all counts! Letting it out does feel cathartic. I don’t know what your religious views are, but it helps me to go to mass. My priest is such a great speaker and his homilies always hit home. If you ever feel like listening to Father Steve speak, look up The Church of the Ressurection in Lansing, Michigan.
I’m not sure if 50 is considered a ‘senior’, however I think more applicable than age is functionality (ie: a 50 year old with less function and poorer health outcomes due to chronic illness can arguably be considered a more advanced biological age than a chronologically older person who has no injury/illness/disability while retaining functionality and independence). Having said that, age itself hasn’t ever had a bearing on crying in my case; what has, is empathy and distress: seeing pain in others always makes me cry, and having physical pain of my own has rarely caused me to shed any tears (despite being hit by a car and thrown into oncoming traffic as one of the more intensely physically painful events I’ve experienced, besides being trampled significantly by a horse in a confined space, and run over by a motorcycle across my middle as a child). Feeling emotional pain makes me cry, and always has done throughout my life. Two things actually have never quite sat right with me, and that is how society has some odd preconceived notions about crying, and how some people themselves seem to have some learned parameters around crying, and how both seem to have what/when/how/why it’s appropriate/not appropriate to cry.
I think it’s much more simpler than that, and the only thing that should influence a persons tears is their need to express emotion with tears - forget the rest regarding societal expectations, or what a person has learned around when it’s ok or not ok to cry. Whenever people have asked me why I’m crying, I tell them “because it’s needed”. The only times I’ve ever not cried is when it would influence others, like when small children need an adult to provide stability and calm, however I have always cried later when appropriate.
Crying shouldn’t have an attached hangover of guilt, or some other negative emotion due to it happening - I think if a person is crying more, their brain needs to do so, simple as that. Better to cry than hold it in. Better to express sadness, loss, loneliness, and grief, than hold it in. Better to feel it’s a normal reaction to distress than to think it’s somehow a bad thing. And even if it’s happening a lot, I still think it’s ok to cry, because sometimes in life it just gets that bad we need to cry that much before we can start to feel any better.
I planned to write an encouraging response here. Now that I've read all these beautiful words of encouragement, my response has to be gratitude for the loving caring hearts you all have. What a blessing for me to witness such kindness and love today.
I consider you all a gift from God ! Thank you
I cry when I think about what I'm grateful for and appreciate every day. I cry when I think about someone and send them a love message. I don't believe that crying is just about sadness and grief. I believe it's all about experiencing our human-ess.
Thank you to everyone for caring.
Thank you everyone! I derive great comfort in knowing that I am not alone, and quite possibly supporting the Kleenex industry on my own.