That doesn’t really make sense does it. You might also ask to talk to a patient advocate, sometimes they have more time to sit and talk with you to work out decisions. I wish we would have stopped my brothers treatments sooner and had a little more time “at the beach”. He kept wanting to try even after the doctor said he didn’t have anything more to offer.
Ultimately I just supported whatever decisions he made, I did ask the questions and made sure he understood that he really had to decide. I wrote it all down when we would talk so I wouldn’t forget when the emergencies came.
These conversations are soooooo hard. Hard to ask harder to answer.
Have you talked about advance directives?