Loss: I am stuck in the "angry" stage. How can I move on?

Posted by mikaylar @mikaylar, May 25, 2023

My brother committed suicide 2 years ago. How do I get out of the "angry" stage. It seems that's the only way I can deal.

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amyleew | @amyleew | Jun 6, 2023

In reply to @amyleew "My friend who lost her very close boyfriend w/ a sudden tragic death feels the same..." + (show)

"from a sudden..." not with

annewoodmayo | @annewoodmayo | Jun 7, 2023

In reply to @mikaylar "Yikes you expressed exactly what I am feeling. It is hard to manage because I am..." + (show)

Gee, Mikaylar, what a situation.
I wish I could express my sympathy as well and as beautifully as the other folks who have replied...

Here are some "action" ideas on the property, if you feel up to them. Don't blame you one bit if you don't want to read any more advice on what to do. And maybe you've already thought of them. I'm going to write them just in case they do help.

Can you donate the property to an organization that accepts property? Or to the township for a green space?
Can you sell it fast to one of those companies that buy houses as is?
If the property is still unused, it might be a real kindness to all of the neighbors to sell it to someone who could fix it or raze it. Like in "Forrest Gump," it might be helpful to see it torn down- or to see it built back up for other people to use.

Those headaches sound like hell. So sorry for all of it.

Wishing peace to you.

mikaylar | @mikaylar | Jun 7, 2023

In reply to @annewoodmayo "Gee, Mikaylar, what a situation. I wish I could express my sympathy as well and as..." + (show)

My brother's house and 2 others were flattened to the ground. The ones on either side are being rebuilt. I cannot get involved because if I get any bit of money from the property, the people that were harmed will come after me for money. The only thing I can do is totally stay out of it. Eventually, I will have to sign off as his heir so they can rebuild (whoever they is), but I want nothing otherwise.

annewoodmayo | @annewoodmayo | Jun 8, 2023

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Mikaylar
Wow, again, what a rotten situation.

Joanne Eckert | @joanneeckert | Jun 8, 2023

This is an excellent idea for anyone living alone. I do hope people will take your suggestion seriously. After all, aren’t we all here to Love One Another. Let’s do it!

Joanne Eckert | @joanneeckert | Jun 8, 2023

In reply to @mikaylar "Wish I could do all that however, I am dealing with a daily persistent headache that..." + (show)

I’m going through this same headache thing but also with horrible neck & shoulder pain. I’m havng an MRI done tomorrow. All of this happening likely because I have a very narcissistic daughter-in-law who just divorced my son because he has early onset Parkinson’s. They have 5 young children who now go back & forth. Also, my daughter-in-law has been dating. She’s a very mean, selfish and cruel person. God has shown me how to forgive her, but I don’t have to like her. People will always disappoint us; God won’t. God bless you now & always.