I find this whole topic very haunting. When I was 41 my first husband died. Caretaking him was extremely difficult, and there was not a lot of honesty or openness on this topic. We were just in crisis--economically, emotionally, and more. Now I'm almost 70 and have breast cancer with a poor prognosis. I don't want my current husband to suffer as I did when I was widowed, from lack of connection and communication. But some close friends think I'm overdoing it. Right now I'm doing a standard treatment I have little faith in in large part because my husband wants me too. It isn't too arduous, but I find it very depressing. Have I gone too far in the other direction? I did agree to this treatment--and common sense tells me it is ok. And I've made it clear that I'll quit if I want to. Still, I find myself very divided. Thoughts?