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My journey as a husband supporting my wife’s mastectomy decision
Caregivers | Last Active: Apr 30, 2023 | Replies (142)Comment receiving replies
I have recently found out my wife of 30 years may have BC . No family history. Precious little caregiver support for husbands facing this along with their spouses.
So as to not appear unsympathetic to others in the comments I offer my personal email to you for communication.
This is very early for my wife and myself in this process so I’m going through anticipation of problems and losses that are not yet realized. I’m a bit of a worrier and someone who looks at all possibilities ahead of time.
I feel that I can be supportive of my wife through whatever comes. But I know how these things have gone for other men ( I work In Healthcare ) and see that
men are largely ignored in these matters. So I am offering a more private mutual support.
Thanks for sharing your journey. I pray it turns out to the good.
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@jepthah, you'll notice that I removed your personal phone number. Connect is a public forum. We recommend sharing personal contact information using the secure private message function. I might also add that by sharing here in the forum, you are connecting with several people where all can benefit from group support.
As you and your wife prepare for the journey ahead, feel free to ask questions. Does your wife have a treatment plan yet? Do you know the type of breast cancer?
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Welcome @jepthah ,
You have come to the right place to find information and seek support. My mother had breast cancer, lumpectomy and chemo/radiation. It was a tough journey but she conquered the cancer thanks to grace and all the marvelous medical treatments available. If you don't mind, I would like to introduce you to @auntieoakley who has personal experience and insights on this.
It's easy to anticipate the worst possible outcomes, and my two cents, for what it's worth, is let yourself think about it, but don't stay there long. A positive attitude will help you help yourself and your wife. She needs all the support she can get, and in my experience going thru this with my mom and dad...our hospital oncology department had group support meetings for the patient and the caregiver. You stated you work in healthcare. Do you know if this is available in your hospital? Do you or your wife have mutual friends or family that have gone thru breast cancer that you can talk to? Feel free to look around this site on the Breast Cancer support group. There are other men that have posted your same concerns.