Who I am speaking with, is the key to my response. If it’s a family member or close friend I will give them an overview of what I am going through that day.
However, if it’s someone in public my response is “I am blessed” because I am.
If you want the scoop right from Mayo Clinic Pain Rehabilitation Center - Dr. Sletten teaches it's okay to say you are having difficult day. No explanation needed. It's good to have one person that you can talk to honestly but no one else needs to know all the details of what you're going through. He teaches about "pain behaviors" which is anything you do say or think that reminds you of pain, and explains that talking about symptoms accesses your pain pathways and can lead to more pain.
I like to reverse the question by answering I'm fine, or doing well, then ask how are you how , how are the children , how is your new job?
i just don't answer because i can't, gesture if i can to indicate i'm in too much pain to respond. my family, doctors.
how are yous are sometimes just hellos, not everyone really wants to know how you are. so you have to be attuned to that.
if i can speak i just say if it's too someone close enough to really care that thanks not too good and if they want to help which they often do i say please don't i'll be okay.
but if i am still not okay after some time and do really need help then i ask for it. hate that but that's the way it is.
Who I am speaking with, is the key to my response. If it’s a family member or close friend I will give them an overview of what I am going through that day.
However, if it’s someone in public my response is “I am blessed” because I am.
I think you should be honest about your pain level. If you are really hurting, tell them your pain level is at 8 or better. If they ignore you, tell your doctor how much you hurt!
I like this a lot ! Let’s face it no one really wants to know how horrible I feel, with the exception of my best friend we tell each other. My kids especially my oldest hates it when I speak about it so I have really tried not to spending more time talking about her. But you definitely need someone to listen. It’s way too hard to go on everyday without someone on your side with Empathy. I’m an Empath., so I’ll listen and absorb your pains.
It's hard to be truthful about pain and that's exactly opposite of where I want to focus. I want to concentrate and focus on all the good around me - I want to be as active as I can.
So, I often tell people "It is well with my soul" - that's true regardless of my physical pain and limitations. Anyone who knows me and focuses on my eyes/movements knows my physical pain at any given moment, but a human is so much more than merely being a physical person.
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Life controlled by pain has control sono way to let go but to surrender to it not to surrender it. Ask the mouse or try.
I usually say I'm in pain if I know people can tell by my face that I'm in pain. Other than that I keep it to my close friends.
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3 ReactionsWho I am speaking with, is the key to my response. If it’s a family member or close friend I will give them an overview of what I am going through that day.
However, if it’s someone in public my response is “I am blessed” because I am.
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4 ReactionsThis is really helpful. Thank you
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i just don't answer because i can't, gesture if i can to indicate i'm in too much pain to respond. my family, doctors.
how are yous are sometimes just hellos, not everyone really wants to know how you are. so you have to be attuned to that.
if i can speak i just say if it's too someone close enough to really care that thanks not too good and if they want to help which they often do i say please don't i'll be okay.
but if i am still not okay after some time and do really need help then i ask for it. hate that but that's the way it is.
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1 ReactionI prefer “I’m doing the best I can with what I’ve got” in as an upbeat tone as possible. I can’t fake it with anyone.
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2 ReactionsI think you should be honest about your pain level. If you are really hurting, tell them your pain level is at 8 or better. If they ignore you, tell your doctor how much you hurt!
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2 ReactionsI like this a lot ! Let’s face it no one really wants to know how horrible I feel, with the exception of my best friend we tell each other. My kids especially my oldest hates it when I speak about it so I have really tried not to spending more time talking about her. But you definitely need someone to listen. It’s way too hard to go on everyday without someone on your side with Empathy. I’m an Empath., so I’ll listen and absorb your pains.
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3 ReactionsIt's hard to be truthful about pain and that's exactly opposite of where I want to focus. I want to concentrate and focus on all the good around me - I want to be as active as I can.
So, I often tell people "It is well with my soul" - that's true regardless of my physical pain and limitations. Anyone who knows me and focuses on my eyes/movements knows my physical pain at any given moment, but a human is so much more than merely being a physical person.
So, "it is well with my soul" fits me perfectly!
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