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My journey as a husband supporting my wife’s mastectomy decision
Caregivers | Last Active: Apr 30, 2023 | Replies (142)Comment receiving replies
@gpigford many of us had mastectomies without many problems. You will know a lot more from pathology, and hope an Oncotype is done.
This is not a death sentence. Try to get your emotions out and get to a more matter of fact place. We get info, a treatment plan, and get it done. Chances are, things will be fine. I learned the term "catastrophizing:" don't do it 🙂
I am helping someone close to me with their oncology appointment today. It has been a weeks long process of trying to help without violating her autonomy. I can really sympathize. As I have had to do: remember this is your wife's cancer. It is hard on spouses, I know.
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I agree with you @windyshores this is certainly not the end of the story. The next couple weeks will be spent healing and drawing battle plans.
I disagree with the last statement, this is “our” cancer. It is just in her body. The definition of autonomy is about a person's ability to act on his or her own best values and interests. If I followed that rule I would have spent the night in a bar rather than sleeping in a hospital room with her.