The emotional roller coaster hits everyone. when I was first diagnosed, I was scared for my kids as they are still young. I might be harsh but I felt replaceable to my husband as eventually he might choose to find another person to continue life with (I’ve seen it with two sister in laws). To my kids, they will not get over the feeling of losing their mother. I resented my husband as during the 20years we’ve been together, he was a major stress to me and I gave in a lot of my identity, wants and needs to please him. I was looking forward to see my kids grow up, have their own lives and enjoy loving their kids. Then, diagnosis came and I felt I will not be around for the one thing I wanted in life. This made me resent my husband. I understand you as her husband is stressed and afraid but in the end, you need to come to terms that it’s her decision and support it. I wanted to do diep flap for reconstruction and didn’t fill my husband in as I knew he was going to argue with me. He heard it from the plastic surgeon during one of my appts. Was he upset, maybe. After meeting with breast surgeon, she influenced me against flap and more implants because my cancer is higher risk. I hope this helps. Your wife is scarred and maybe resenting you for worrying about sexual aspect down the road when literally nothing to her matters except surviving.

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