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My journey as a husband supporting my wife’s mastectomy decision
Caregivers | Last Active: Apr 30, 2023 | Replies (142)Comment receiving replies
Oh, we all fear making the wrong decision. But I have learned to say to myself that I am going to make the best decision I can with the information I have and that is all I can ask of myself so, no beating myself up over it. When I decided on my initial rounds of treatment, I used all the latest information I could find, but 18 yrs. later that information is mostly obsolete at worst and inadequate at best. No one’s fault we just know more all the time. Have you or @celica visited any other threads in the breast cancer group? There are several that can be helpful in preparing questions for your doctor. This can really be helpful in decision making.
Do you have a support system of friends or neighbors to help?
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This is my first day here! I work at night at home writing. I don’t have a close support system mostly because my husband died about three years ago, my cousin died, my stepson has a brain tumor…. but I have friends and… whew I just suddenly found myself alone after family losses and distance from my hometown. We seem to be on overload. I do live in a close nit community however and I can get paratransit rides as I have epilepsy, and I have a great service dog 🐕🦺 Fitbit with a puppy Abby I love who I’m training to be another service dog as Fitbit grows older. Missing my husband is the worst of my losses. Knowing what to decide when I’m able to get a referral from a new MD in the right location I think I will be less worried and less feeling alone and have hope to make the best choices as they arise. I do like writing and have switched from research as I retired. Now I write, and that at least keeps me working setting my own pace. Reine/Maureen