As for daughter, neither of mine wants to hear a word about my health issues. I'm not 'allowed' to be sick in their minds. Their father (we divorced long ago) died instantly a massive heart attack 5 yrs ago. That shock+loss was more than they could handle. It was same year that my health tanked. So, I have a theory that they NEED me to be healthy, even if I am pretending!! So, I stopped saying a word about my health 2 yrs ago. They don't ask, and I don't tell. They talk with me much more now that I've had a miraculous recovery (in their minds). It's much easier to be silent on such things bc I realize my health issues are a burden they can't carry. The thought of me dying is unbearable. It's very weird, but I understand it now and not bothered by it. I'm their rock. Mother/daug relationships are complicated on a good day, right? My grandsons have lost 2 grandparents (my ex and their Nana...my SIL mother). And their living grandfather almost died a year ago, too. So yeah. It's on me to stay healthy and ALIVE. And I am very motivated to stick around for their sake and my own. Hugs