First, Thank you very much for your input it is helpful. I am on here because she is not talking to me. I was never looking for people to take my side though everyone here seems to think so. I have no side. I was NOT trying to talk her out of her decision but wanting her to make it with all the data and time to process it. I will without a doubt support what ever path she chooses. I asked her to merry me 30 years ago and have never second guessed it. I just want to protect her from all of this and I can’t and that hurts so much. The blow up I mentioned was not me to her, but her blowing up onto me. I understand that she is scared and I’m a easy, close target. She didn’t even tell me in advance. I found out her choice when the surgeon was told. That was crushing. Well that’s was a long answer of why I’m here and not her.

Oh and yes today is better. We stay in a local hotel and watched the sun come up this morning.