thank you so much for validating everything that we feel also. These Doctors just don't understand or get it! and his ENT told him to NOT loosen the strap to where the trach will move around causing more issues for him. Well it's hard when you can't breathe buddy! Yes, whatever it takes we are getting this trach reversed. I do massage him in the nighttime. and that seems to help and calm his breathing. And it is ALL a catch 22 with all of it. thank you so much and still trying to keep it positive.