Nannette, of course you’re not the only person over 60 who is feeling the loss of what we were able to do in our 20s and every decade forward. But the ability to change and adapt is a gift we’re given.
Accept, adapt and move on, has been a motto of mine since my mid-30s. I’m now 68, been through a battle with leukemia and had a bone marrow transplant almost 3 years ago. I’ve lost most of my family members and a couple of really close friends. Covid has messed up the ability to physically interact with people but I stay connected and active.
My life has changed but I embrace every single day. I mourned for maybe 10 minutes over some of the things I can no longer do. I don’t dwell on the past or what I can’t do. I focus on what I can do and want to do! Then make it happen.
Heck, I was a gymnast, but at 68 I don’t lament that fact that I can’t do the iron cross on the free rings anymore or that I can’t flip effortlessly on the parallel bars, no backflips or cartwheels…unless it’s on the winter ice! 😅
But what I can do is walk 8 miles a day, or grab my paints or read or sew, or ride my bike. I have no limits. I don’t rely on others for my happiness. The only two things over which we have any control are our attitude and our effort.
Sometimes our fear of failure is what holds us back. What is it that you want to start but can’t?
Good morning, Nattaya. Yours was the first reply I saw this morning and you made my day. So thank YOU!
Any day we’re not pushing daisies up from the underside is a great day, right? 😅
Just joined the 70s club last year and adjusting to a different lifestyle having to gauge what my limits are more than earlier. Looking for new opportunities as I venture on - still on the job consulting partly full time! Ready for some Revenge Travel.
Just joined the 70s club last year and adjusting to a different lifestyle having to gauge what my limits are more than earlier. Looking for new opportunities as I venture on - still on the job consulting partly full time! Ready for some Revenge Travel.
Welcome @wms, I'm with you on looking for new opportunities in this adventure we call life. I think that is part of keeping us going vs the alternative. It's good to hear you are still on the job consulting. I'm fortunate enough to have retired from 2 different jobs and got most of my travel out of my system in Uncle Sam's Navy. Now I'm happy to just be able to make day trips around the state to enjoy what's close - lots of small town celebrations.
Just joined the 70s club last year and adjusting to a different lifestyle having to gauge what my limits are more than earlier. Looking for new opportunities as I venture on - still on the job consulting partly full time! Ready for some Revenge Travel.
I am going to brag about one of my 70-something best friends here...she is busy focusing on what she can still do, and reinventing herself in the process.
Last August she lost her husband and best friend of 53 years, but we managed to convince her to still join us in Texas for the winter. They always traveled/camped together, and we often met for adventures in the Midwest in summer. She wants to continue to travel - but independently, not sharing our car & camper.
She sold her big truck and travel trailer to purchase a tiny house near us in Texas, so...yesterday she sent us a picture of her new tent, which she set up herself under her daughter's supervision. She has equipped it with cot, mattress, sleeping bag, lantern, battery operated cooler, and a bed for her Beagle! Now we are scheduling our first trip in 2 weeks. After the "shakedown" she plans to make solo trips to New York & maybe Washington state. If all goes well we will make a Southwestern adventure tour together next summer.
All this in spite of a limited budget and numerous health issues. Now, that's what I call taking lemons and making lemonade. I'll report back after our adventure, which will include between 14 and 20 people from 2 to 75!
Sue
Just joined the 70s club last year and adjusting to a different lifestyle having to gauge what my limits are more than earlier. Looking for new opportunities as I venture on - still on the job consulting partly full time! Ready for some Revenge Travel.
Me, too--this year. I took a trip to Italy/Malta with tours and had a transformational time. I was a bit worried about energy, but made it just fine. It was so great to see WOW things everyday. I did not go with my partner due to his mobility issues, but plenty of people in the group to hang with.
I am going to brag about one of my 70-something best friends here...she is busy focusing on what she can still do, and reinventing herself in the process.
Last August she lost her husband and best friend of 53 years, but we managed to convince her to still join us in Texas for the winter. They always traveled/camped together, and we often met for adventures in the Midwest in summer. She wants to continue to travel - but independently, not sharing our car & camper.
She sold her big truck and travel trailer to purchase a tiny house near us in Texas, so...yesterday she sent us a picture of her new tent, which she set up herself under her daughter's supervision. She has equipped it with cot, mattress, sleeping bag, lantern, battery operated cooler, and a bed for her Beagle! Now we are scheduling our first trip in 2 weeks. After the "shakedown" she plans to make solo trips to New York & maybe Washington state. If all goes well we will make a Southwestern adventure tour together next summer.
All this in spite of a limited budget and numerous health issues. Now, that's what I call taking lemons and making lemonade. I'll report back after our adventure, which will include between 14 and 20 people from 2 to 75!
Sue
I am always inspired by stories like these. It proves to me the ability for people to get past all kinds of things and have adventures in spite of circumstances.
I am 80 living w/ my daughter and her hubby. I own this house and land and am still paying. Daughter convinced me to build on and move in where she could help me. She is 50. lWhen she came to my house to help me pack she got mad I was too slow. she gravved my arms and neck, threw things at me. kicked me and swore horrivble things. I never saw her like this, I was sickened. well, I finally got the t house I added on...lShe swore and yelled and I have been here a year and it hasn;t stopped. Hubby I found out has frightening temper. said khe would like to drive into a tree and kill me because my head w as in the way on a rainy day. He does not talk nor does she. I cant believe I am living like this...my "golden"years. Too old to move, I cant believe it ..saying I am nuts and etc. I stay i8n my part 97%of the t ime, with my dog,try to stay away from them. Does she have a mental illness...him too. I want to live here till I die, if I can take ite. Any help?
I am 80 living w/ my daughter and her hubby. I own this house and land and am still paying. Daughter convinced me to build on and move in where she could help me. She is 50. lWhen she came to my house to help me pack she got mad I was too slow. she gravved my arms and neck, threw things at me. kicked me and swore horrivble things. I never saw her like this, I was sickened. well, I finally got the t house I added on...lShe swore and yelled and I have been here a year and it hasn;t stopped. Hubby I found out has frightening temper. said khe would like to drive into a tree and kill me because my head w as in the way on a rainy day. He does not talk nor does she. I cant believe I am living like this...my "golden"years. Too old to move, I cant believe it ..saying I am nuts and etc. I stay i8n my part 97%of the t ime, with my dog,try to stay away from them. Does she have a mental illness...him too. I want to live here till I die, if I can take ite. Any help?
Hi Mattie. I am so sad to read your story and feel your disappointment in your daughter. It sounds like you are experiencing verbal and emotional abuse. Do you have a church, friend, doctor or therapist to talk to about this issue? Please reach out, get support and get some direction to make your life better. You deserve comfort and respect always, but especially as a mother and an elder. I have offered a prayer for you. Take heart, love yourself and garner courage to move forward.
There are agencies devoted to preventing elder abuse; if you have access to the internet, search it on Google; you should not have to put up with this ongoing abuse; contact your local Sheriff department and make a claim against them, you can even have them evicted.
I am surprised than none of the "mentors" that monitor this site have not spoken up for support for you;
I am also elderly, 82, and live in my home in a remote area of Texas; my eldest son lives with me and looks after the land and house; I no longer drive so he takes me to Dr. appts, and buys groceries from a list that I make; I could not get along without him; You should have the same help from your children, but putting up with abuse should not be tolerated.
There is help out there but you have to reach out and let them know. In, addition, elder abuse is a Federal law violation.
I urge you to at least contact law enforcement and let them know what is going on.
I am very concerned for you and I hope that you will be proactive and speak up to expose the violations that are going on with you and your children.
Please keep in touch and let us know how it is going. My hopes and prayers are with you and hopefully your situation can be peacefully resolved.
Rosalie
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Thank you Lori, I am 79 moving to 80 , glad to be able to do things and will keep on doing it. Have a wonderful days.
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3 ReactionsGood morning, Nattaya. Yours was the first reply I saw this morning and you made my day. So thank YOU!
Any day we’re not pushing daisies up from the underside is a great day, right? 😅
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8 ReactionsJust joined the 70s club last year and adjusting to a different lifestyle having to gauge what my limits are more than earlier. Looking for new opportunities as I venture on - still on the job consulting partly full time! Ready for some Revenge Travel.
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5 ReactionsWelcome @wms, I'm with you on looking for new opportunities in this adventure we call life. I think that is part of keeping us going vs the alternative. It's good to hear you are still on the job consulting. I'm fortunate enough to have retired from 2 different jobs and got most of my travel out of my system in Uncle Sam's Navy. Now I'm happy to just be able to make day trips around the state to enjoy what's close - lots of small town celebrations.
What's on your bucket list?
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4 ReactionsI am going to brag about one of my 70-something best friends here...she is busy focusing on what she can still do, and reinventing herself in the process.
Last August she lost her husband and best friend of 53 years, but we managed to convince her to still join us in Texas for the winter. They always traveled/camped together, and we often met for adventures in the Midwest in summer. She wants to continue to travel - but independently, not sharing our car & camper.
She sold her big truck and travel trailer to purchase a tiny house near us in Texas, so...yesterday she sent us a picture of her new tent, which she set up herself under her daughter's supervision. She has equipped it with cot, mattress, sleeping bag, lantern, battery operated cooler, and a bed for her Beagle! Now we are scheduling our first trip in 2 weeks. After the "shakedown" she plans to make solo trips to New York & maybe Washington state. If all goes well we will make a Southwestern adventure tour together next summer.
All this in spite of a limited budget and numerous health issues. Now, that's what I call taking lemons and making lemonade. I'll report back after our adventure, which will include between 14 and 20 people from 2 to 75!
Sue
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12 ReactionsMe, too--this year. I took a trip to Italy/Malta with tours and had a transformational time. I was a bit worried about energy, but made it just fine. It was so great to see WOW things everyday. I did not go with my partner due to his mobility issues, but plenty of people in the group to hang with.
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9 ReactionsI am always inspired by stories like these. It proves to me the ability for people to get past all kinds of things and have adventures in spite of circumstances.
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5 ReactionsI am 80 living w/ my daughter and her hubby. I own this house and land and am still paying. Daughter convinced me to build on and move in where she could help me. She is 50. lWhen she came to my house to help me pack she got mad I was too slow. she gravved my arms and neck, threw things at me. kicked me and swore horrivble things. I never saw her like this, I was sickened. well, I finally got the t house I added on...lShe swore and yelled and I have been here a year and it hasn;t stopped. Hubby I found out has frightening temper. said khe would like to drive into a tree and kill me because my head w as in the way on a rainy day. He does not talk nor does she. I cant believe I am living like this...my "golden"years. Too old to move, I cant believe it ..saying I am nuts and etc. I stay i8n my part 97%of the t ime, with my dog,try to stay away from them. Does she have a mental illness...him too. I want to live here till I die, if I can take ite. Any help?
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2 ReactionsHi Mattie. I am so sad to read your story and feel your disappointment in your daughter. It sounds like you are experiencing verbal and emotional abuse. Do you have a church, friend, doctor or therapist to talk to about this issue? Please reach out, get support and get some direction to make your life better. You deserve comfort and respect always, but especially as a mother and an elder. I have offered a prayer for you. Take heart, love yourself and garner courage to move forward.
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5 ReactionsThere are agencies devoted to preventing elder abuse; if you have access to the internet, search it on Google; you should not have to put up with this ongoing abuse; contact your local Sheriff department and make a claim against them, you can even have them evicted.
I am surprised than none of the "mentors" that monitor this site have not spoken up for support for you;
I am also elderly, 82, and live in my home in a remote area of Texas; my eldest son lives with me and looks after the land and house; I no longer drive so he takes me to Dr. appts, and buys groceries from a list that I make; I could not get along without him; You should have the same help from your children, but putting up with abuse should not be tolerated.
There is help out there but you have to reach out and let them know. In, addition, elder abuse is a Federal law violation.
I urge you to at least contact law enforcement and let them know what is going on.
I am very concerned for you and I hope that you will be proactive and speak up to expose the violations that are going on with you and your children.
Please keep in touch and let us know how it is going. My hopes and prayers are with you and hopefully your situation can be peacefully resolved.
Rosalie
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