I am not a professional caregiver, but I do have experience with the anxiety and uncertainty that comes with an eye condition. What helped me a lot was to first be absolutely sure what you are dealing with. In my case I got a diagnosis but the pains and sensations were so debilitating that I could not believe the diagnosis was correct. So I got a second and third opinion. Also I went to a neurologist and that excluded other conditions so I had a clear cut diagnosis and that helped me, as I now knew absolutely what I was dealing with. It is better to fight one monster then to not to be sure what exactly you are fighting. Then I also sort of knew what to focus on, and what my options are. What is important is that the diagnosis also gave me more confidence in the doctors and their treatment proposal. This was also important: to have faith and believe the doctors. This will also help to get less stressed and more focused on the treatment. If you have to proceed with the surgery or not is something that I can not give you advise on. It depends on what the situation will be if you choose to not have the surgery. What are your options? - this must be as clear as possible. So what helped for me was the following: 1.be absolutely sure about the diagnosis. 2.have trust in the medical professionals 3.get a good idea of your options. This reduced my anxiety and uncertainty. Wishing you all the best.