Hi @pstut I know each of our journeys' in grief and loss are unique, but here is what I do for those special days when I miss my wife more than normal and certainly on her birthday and other significant life's anniversaries.

I write about a favorite memory/story I have of that day with her and share it with someone who knew her. I also often call one of her best friends and we talk about how much we both loved and miss her. I have long kept a basket on our living room coffee table filled with random, family photos. Not the best ones I've ever taken, just a bunch of those extra, old photos that always hang around in drawers, etc. I sit with that basket and look through a random handful of those pictures. I find it easy to lose myself in one or another of them.

I also cry a lot, but I know I grieve in direct proportion to how much I loved, so let myself have those good cries.

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