~ Depressed and scared, not making it financially ~
I'm 74 years old and moved 3 years ago from MD to VA. My girls had hounded me to come down for several years so I finally did it. I sold my condo (at a loss), and a job with a dentist. Well, here I am, and financially I'm just not making it. That amount I earned from the dentist covered me with just a little left over. Now, more than often, I don't have enough. I eeked out just enough for my rent this month, and now there's not even enough for a quart of milk. I get S.S. and what I get goes right out for my rent (usually there's enough), and my son sends me money each month. I'm sickened, depressed, and scared. I live in low income housing, and have a budget that practically squeaks. I'm thinking of starting to sell some of my furniture.
I so wish I'd have stayed in MD, for so many reasons, this being one of them. I have applied for oodles of jobs (they're all on line now), and legally they're not supposed to ask you how old you are (although many do), but they all ask when you graduated from either high school or college .... well, it doesn't take rocket science to figure out how old a person is. I'm so depressed about this, and .so upset that my stomach.constantly churns.
Thanks for letting me vent.
abby
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I was trying hard to find my a better place both mentally and physically. It started with my wife and her quest towards spiritual cleansing. After an incredible TedTalk on a sound therapy treatment topic, I began my journey through a plethora of YouTube videos and Spotify albums. I recently thought of a simple and obvious solution. A home unit that works? Simple and truly healing. As soon as I had this concept my motivation, energy and determination have reved up into overdrive. I know this is my calling.
It is great to learn about your appreciation of Tibetan bowls and tones. I gave those as Christmas gifts last year. Would you be able to give me the specific link for your youtube source? Thanks.
May you have peace and ease today.
Chris
I know it's been a couple of years since you posted, so I hope you are doing ok. If you are still in need, please check with Jefferson Area Board for Aging (JABA) in Virginia. If you aren't in one of the counties they service, they can point you in the right direction. Here's their website...https://www.jabacares.org/
@amberpep I recently signed up on Indeed just to see what type of Jobs I could land if I moved to Phoenix, AZ where one of my sons live. Indeed has been sending emails and I am so surprised as to how many "work from home" jobs there are. One that I get very often is working as a Customer Representative. You would basically be making calls to clients. You would need a computer. I have seen some that pay up to $20 an hour. It wouldn't hurt to get signed up and see what other "work from home" jobs you could qualify for. The Customer Representative is just one example of what I am receiving, but there are other positions. I worry too as far as applying for jobs at my age. I totally understand. Please don't give up on hope, there is someone looking out for us. You're not alone.
I have not been here for quite awhile so I didn't know it was only 70 characters. I'll have to cut this really short. I'm a 77 year old healthy woman, divorced after 45 years, relocated in a place I do not like in a Sec. 8 Senior Apt. Bldg. Been struggling with Anxiety/Depression all my life. Was in therapy 14 years, moved, see a psychiatrist for meds., but no therapy .... old therapist is 3 hours away. Daughters and families down here; I do not like it down here; in other city/state was busy, active, part-time work, wonderful church, close friends, had my own condo, wonderful city. Here? Do not like it, X lives 20 mi. away in a big house on 2 acres; I see my girls each week; otherwise I stay here; all others should be in Nursing Home or Asst. Living. rather than here ... very depressing. Have not found a church, town very small, stay in a lot and read. Feel like I'm just waiting to die. Barb
(I didn't realize these had to be so short now.)
Hi @amberpep Barb, welcome back. It's good to see you.
FYI, only the title of a discussion has to be 70 characters long. Your message can be as long as you need it to be.
You'll notice that I moved your new post to this discussion that you started a while back. I did this so you can continue to connect with old and new virtual friends. A lot of people have been writing to you in your absence. Here is the link to your last message in this discussion group - https://connect.mayoclinic.org/comment/251875/
I suggest clicking the link and start reading from there. You'll see that your posts invited others to share their stories, many offer empathy and ideas, and everyone welcomes you back around the virtual table to chat and catch up.
I’m so sorry that you are sad. Our kids can be so frustrating. Some are so delighted that they can manage on their own! I wonder if you have ever checked out cohousing? I have a friend who likes living there. She even found a boyfriend!
Hi there .... that sounds great. I sure could use the money. Who do I contact to get started? Barb
Thanks so much for being so welcoming and kind. Barb
Hi Dana ... golly, it's good to be back here. For a 77 year old lady I am in excellent health. I have had 1 knee surgery, but otherwise, my doctor told me for my age I'm in great shape. That feels good to hear. I have been an Orthodox Christian - Western Rite, prior to moving down here, but the tiny one that started up 2 years ago - I went for a year - was more like a wake than a worship service. My faith is my stronghold and I do not want to be a "lone ranger Christian." That's a good way to fall off the horse! So I've been trying many other churches, but in my heart I'm still Western Orthodox. I keep in touch with one of the folks at that mission church down here, and they only still have 13 people. I've shared a few idea - very, very, carefully - with them, but "no that won't work" was pretty much the answer. Barb