Recent, totally sudden, traumatic loss of our daughter, 45.

Hi Johnchick, no it's not a downer.. as you put it it's a process.I know for me it's the realization in talking to there Dad that the most important aspect for us now and I like how he put it. We are those Children's connection to their Moms Childhood. Unlike their Father we knew their Mother's an Adult we can share the childhood memories so for me that's my goal going forward. Cherish those memories including photos. Something I'm doing is to digitize and preserve pictures and or any videos I have to be able on those occasions that they ask those insignificant questions as they grow older I can have an answer and keep the memories going.
As for electronic video platforms I know for this old dog from the one phone on the wall in the Kitchen to a video phone-in my hands made it a goal to learn what I could. My favorite resource is YouTube literally anything you want to learn someone has made a video for. My main video calling tool is Duo and for multiple people at once Zoom. So maybe give that a shot. Have a Merry Christmas and I'm here as a virtual shoulder. I've have grown a bit smarter on the video platforms so if I can help there please ask.
Blessings

Have you read Mourning Has Broken by Erin Davis? She lost her apparently healthy daughter at age 24. I recommend it.

I am sending my sympathies. I lost a son suddenly and then lost the ability to have more children. You are not alone in your grief.

I’m so very sorry for your precious loss of your daughter. It’s so traumatic! It’s something you will not get over but will learn how to live with her wonderful memories always with you. This takes lots of time, keep her pictures every where and remember. ❤️❤️ See, I lost my son Eric at the age of 30 although not suddenly you’re never prepared to loose your child. 😔 Pray a lot, keep your faith in GOD! I would tell you to stay close to family but you said you do not have any near you. My prayers are with you both. Holly

Hi @hhjgreene, welcome. Such words of wisdom and experience. How long ago did you lose your son Eric? It takes time, like you said, and one cannot rush grief. When or how did you feel that the pain of loss could turn to a smile and good memories when thinking of Eric?

Hi Colleen, our son Eric was promoted to Heaven November 4, 2014. It was literally the worst night of our lives. You see on one side our hearts knew Eric was going to die probably earlier than we were because of his terminal illness called Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy but the other side never could bare to think about it. But our wonderful Eric he so loved the Lord, he was such a wonderful gift from God. He accepted his life the way God made him after all he’d been through. Which helped us too. I’ve had pictures up in every room of my house literally! You know I grieved severely for a good while not even knowing what I was doing. His first birthday came around and I had to make it a big celebration for him. I was still in a deep grieving period of my life. I’d say it’s still very hard. But we remember the happy times and his little sayings and laugh or smile or even cry still. I’m smiling as I’m writing you now. Thinking of our sweet precious Eric. He passed right after he turned 30. I’m always willing to help others with anything I can about how to handle things after this kind of loss. Guilt is a big factor in this kind of situation, so hard on a mom and dad but somehow you have to find a way to forgive yourself especially because God forgave us first. 🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️

Dearest Georgette, My middle son died unexpectedly in 2016 too - 5 days after Thanksgiving. He was 24 and was severely depressed after being discharged from the military for an injury. His dreams were crushed and you can guess the rest. I feel your pain every day and I send you my love and support. 🙏🏻