I'm sorry your marriage is ending, I think you are better off without a woman that is fantasizing about another man when she is with you. For whatever reason she did so, it is much healthier mentally for both of you to be away from one another. I don't think people that truly love one another fantasize about others. Maybe I'm old fashioned but I'd like to believe that healthy men and women partners can love one another for who they are and not get caught up in some sexual addiction with a fantasy. I personally think that the only reason people get into the fantasy sex is because they are trying to make themselves feel better. Orgasms make people feel good. Some people are addicted to them just like some people are addicted to drugs or alcohol. Sexual addiction is common in our society. I don't think it means everyone that has fantasy sex has an addiction, just that it is not a normal loving partnership if one practices the fantasy sex because they are either not in love with their partner or have some sort of anger towards them that prohibits them from loving them.

It is refreshing to read something that seems so honest and normal.

Sorry to read of your plight. Maybe you were being punished. My husband punished me for a long time before I realized it. Unfortunately, things didn't work out.

Healthy fantasies I like that.