Strategies & Realities - Hearing Loss in Social Settings

Posted by Julie, Volunteer Mentor @julieo4, Dec 17, 2021

It's that time of year when families get together and, in many cases, even with COVID still in the air, friends get together too. Not that hearing loss is 'seasonal' It's for real year round! This morning I attended a brunch sponsored by an organization I belong to. Masks required; except when eating. Masks or not, social settings are challenging for people who don't hear well. I'd love to hear how others with hearing loss are coping. Will you share your thoughts and solutions?

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@julieo4

Bluffing is a common strategy, but it can get you in big trouble sometimes. Does anyone have a story about that happening to you?

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Ah yes....my 12 year old grandson caught me! After I nodded my head to him several months ago, he immediately said "Grandpa do you know what you just agreed to!" Gotcha! LOL

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@imallears

@jakedduck1

Have you had your hearing tested? Even if you have a mild loss, a hearing aid(s) will help….don’t think of it specifically for group conversations. A hearing aid may help you pick up some vowels or consonants you may be missing now which will cause you to miss words.
I think most of what you are reading about group situations relates to us with severe to profound hearing loss who also have trouble at times with one or two people talking. So don’t that as an indicator they don’t work or won’t help you in any group conversations.

Hearing loss can be subtle and slowly progressive and you won’t notice what you are missing.

I am surmising you don’t experience any problems on the phone or in other situations in you daily life. But if you are really struggling in group conversations you may be missing more than you think at other times. The longer you wait to get tested or get aids if you need them, the worse it will get. It won’t get any better.

So, your New Years resolution is to get a hearing test with an audiologist. But also schedule an ENT appointment first so they can check out your ears and then maybe use the audiologist at that practice.

You WILL let us know the results , and if your hearing is perfect then we will figure out the group thing.

Can’t wait until you do it.

FL Mary

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@imallears
I have an ENT appointment coming up but not sure when And I was going to ask the doctor if I could get my hearing tested again. years ago I had a hearing test and I had problems with I think high pitch sounds. I do have trouble with certain words on the television and when I ask Alexa a question I have to re-ask the question several times and replay the TV, sometimes I can figure the word out sometimes not. This may be a stupid question however I’m going to ask it anyway. Do people with Hearing loss have a more difficult time understanding people with accents. I have no problem understanding my friends in England but my friend in Africa and the Philippines is more of a challenge, but that's probably a common problem, I hope.
Thanks kids,
Jake

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@jakedduck1

@imallears
I have an ENT appointment coming up but not sure when And I was going to ask the doctor if I could get my hearing tested again. years ago I had a hearing test and I had problems with I think high pitch sounds. I do have trouble with certain words on the television and when I ask Alexa a question I have to re-ask the question several times and replay the TV, sometimes I can figure the word out sometimes not. This may be a stupid question however I’m going to ask it anyway. Do people with Hearing loss have a more difficult time understanding people with accents. I have no problem understanding my friends in England but my friend in Africa and the Philippines is more of a challenge, but that's probably a common problem, I hope.
Thanks kids,
Jake

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Accents are very difficult for most people with hearing loss to understand. Also, for those with typical hearing loss, which shows up on a downward sloping audiogram, the higher consonant sounds are the most difficult to hear. Those are the sounds that leave us first. Vowels give power to speech, so we tend to hear vowels fairly well. Sounds like sh, th, pf, s, etc. slowly disappear from our hearing range, and make it difficult for us to understand conversation. (Especially in noisy places.)

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@rfherald

Julie, I saw an audiologist a few years ago and she said that my hearing had been damaged by age (and what else?) but it was not bad enough to need hearing aids yet. To me, my hearing has not deteriorated any farther so I am staying away from hearing aids until an audiologist recommends it.

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You're fortunate if your hearing loss hasn't deteriorated any further. It does tend to come with aging, but other factors enter the picture too. I encourage you not to wait too many years to be retested. In most instances, other people notice our hearing loss before we do. If a friend or family member tells you that you aren't hearing well, get tested again. Obviously, an audiologist cannot recommend anything w/o testing you. Has anyone close to you suggested that you get a hearing test?

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@scottk

Ah yes....my 12 year old grandson caught me! After I nodded my head to him several months ago, he immediately said "Grandpa do you know what you just agreed to!" Gotcha! LOL

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So did you follow through with what you agreed to? 🙂

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Of course! Taking him to the Packer game on Christmas Day!

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@julieo4

Bluffing is a common strategy, but it can get you in big trouble sometimes. Does anyone have a story about that happening to you?

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Hi All. Here’s a funny one. I work in the events industry, where anything can happen. A while back I was talking with a colleague about what she was seeing as the latest and greatest. I was surprised to “hear” her say that the former model Kate Moss was doing amazing things with bondage. After a little back and forth, I discovered that what she actually said was the Cake Boss was doing amazing things with fondant. Always pays to double check AND keep your sense of humor 🙂 Merry, merry!

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@joann8

Hi All. Here’s a funny one. I work in the events industry, where anything can happen. A while back I was talking with a colleague about what she was seeing as the latest and greatest. I was surprised to “hear” her say that the former model Kate Moss was doing amazing things with bondage. After a little back and forth, I discovered that what she actually said was the Cake Boss was doing amazing things with fondant. Always pays to double check AND keep your sense of humor 🙂 Merry, merry!

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@joann8

That is funny. And you will notice that so many of the words or phrases we mishear are those that are not used in everyday conversation so our ears are not attuned to understanding them. How many times have you used “fondant “ in the past year lol.

I try to refrain from responding sometimes if I think I didn’t hear right.
I had someone in my gym class dead and buried a few months ago when she was alive and well. Glad I asked a close friend who said they were talking about her close friend who did come to the gym occasionally, and that was why we had not seen who I thought had passed in recent weeks.

I’ll try to remember some of the funny ones that had my family on the floor crying laughing.

FL Mary

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@jakedduck1

@imallears
I have an ENT appointment coming up but not sure when And I was going to ask the doctor if I could get my hearing tested again. years ago I had a hearing test and I had problems with I think high pitch sounds. I do have trouble with certain words on the television and when I ask Alexa a question I have to re-ask the question several times and replay the TV, sometimes I can figure the word out sometimes not. This may be a stupid question however I’m going to ask it anyway. Do people with Hearing loss have a more difficult time understanding people with accents. I have no problem understanding my friends in England but my friend in Africa and the Philippines is more of a challenge, but that's probably a common problem, I hope.
Thanks kids,
Jake

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@jakedduck1

As @julieo4 stated, accents are definitely more difficult to understand. Just be sure to tell the person it’s your problem, not their accent, as some people seem to be embarrassed by their accents.
What she said about vowels and consonants are so important.
Losing high frequencies is where your understanding speech starts to deteriorate.

I try not to use the word “hear” when asking people to repeat and use “sorry, I didn’t understand what you said”. I heard the words but couldn’t understand what the words were. It’s like listening to a foreign language. Might be a picky strategy but too many people shout which doesn’t help. Also, repeat what you think you heard so the speaker doesn’t have to repeat the entire conversation. For instance, someone says they are going to the Riviera for vacation and you didn’t hear the word Riviera. You say…you’re going where on vacation? Avoids frustration on both ends.

And I suggest you use captions on tv…you will get use to them…why stress out about that. Alexa is impossible for me as I need to see peoples faces and lips. Get that exam asap cuz it’s not going to get any better and probably will get worse.

When you do get hearing aids, there are so many people here who can help you every step of the way with absolutely anything and so many of us didn’t have that support ….or technology….years and
years ago. But you know that and we are so fortunate to have someone like Julie as our moderator.

FL Mary

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@julieo4

You're fortunate if your hearing loss hasn't deteriorated any further. It does tend to come with aging, but other factors enter the picture too. I encourage you not to wait too many years to be retested. In most instances, other people notice our hearing loss before we do. If a friend or family member tells you that you aren't hearing well, get tested again. Obviously, an audiologist cannot recommend anything w/o testing you. Has anyone close to you suggested that you get a hearing test?

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Not lately.

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