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How to overcome grief over deceased donor after transplant?
Transplants | Last Active: Sep 8, 2021 | Replies (26)Comment receiving replies
@shepn7 There is no timeline for grief of any kind. Please be gentle on yourself.
My husband is a deceased donor kidney recipient. We also felt tremendous grief for this young person to not be able to continue his life. Knowing my husband was given a second chance, we have tried to make sure it counts now, especially in honor and gratitude of his donor. We are very aware that his donor and family will not have the opportunity to experience events, and we honor the new life he has by doing more volunteering, helping others more, because he can now.
What outside resources, that you spoke about in May, did you find to help you process your grief issues?
Ginger
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@gingerw I actually reached out to the National Kindey Foundation, and they got me connected with a peer mentor, someone who has experienced the same thing. She had a transplant, and experienced and worked through her grief, and initally just having someone to talk to who has experienced the same things was and has been helpful. But I can't just keep talking about how sad I am about it over and over again. Thats not productive and it doesn't change how I feel to rehash it with her. She came to peace with it, and eventually I think I will be able to do the same. I just wish I could force myself to feel differently. I just feel like I am being ungrateful and wasting time with this grief that I can't seem to let go of. Thanks for your reply. It was very thoughtful.