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Sexless Marriage (when one partner is ill)
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We were married September 27, 1975. In 1998, I had ovarian cancer, and that's when sexual contact ended. And then physical contact faded. In 2007, my husband was diagnosed with Parkinson's, maybe that's why. Happily married, sure. But what about sexual care for myself? I know how to take care of my digestive system, my urinary system, my integumentary system, my skeletal system but what about my sexuality. And then you throw in religious hang ups. I would like some non pornographic answers, if you know what I mean. I'm surprised someone actually asked!!!
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@annlopour, Connect is a safe place to talk about things that might be otherwise taboo. I'm glad you shared your experience with ovarian cancer and sexual wellbeing (or lack thereof). You might be interested in this:
- Help Mayo & UofMN understand gyne cancer & sexual health needs https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/help-mayo-uofmn-understand-gyne-cancer-sexual-health-needs/
No obligation of course, but wanted to make sure you saw the opportunity to help other women with gynecologic cancers.
Hello and welcome to Mayo Clinic Connect, @annlopour. I see that @colleenyoung has recently replied to you and shared information about another group you may be interested in given your ovarian cancer.
Thank you for being open about a struggle that many are surely going through as well. Caring for yourself sexually isn't necessarily something that is taught. It sounds like you are open to learning how you can take care of yourself.
@danab has shared a response to you that you might find helpful.
Do you struggle with your own religious hang ups?
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Hi and to not get to much into detail certain forms of touching and massage are as erotic as intercourse. I find that upbringing has a lot to do with someone's views on Love Making from strait reproduction reasons to intimacies. I also know many hold to some teachings that they believe the Bible says about certain activities which if you truly understand the Bible have been used in ways to only allow intercourse for reproduction which I feel is false teachings. Now I'm not promoting lifestyles other than One Man and One Women for life marriages but within the confines of the marriage union I don't believe there are any hard fast rules on what is considered Love Making. I hope hat helps.