low sex drive in women

It's so important to be considerate of each others needs in a relationship. Never feel that you have to be with your husband because you feel you have to too please him. This is about you too. You need to open the communication lines with each other and try to sort the way you both feel about this. it is also good to maybe go and talk to someone your G.P. or maybe a little counselling may help. I so disagree with treating this as if its your work, that's not what a good relationship is about it's about a little understanding from both of you. You have a good stable marriage with this man I'm sure things will work out just give it time. Take care Piglit

I have been with my husband for 26 years now and from day one I have never had the sex drive I have tried all kinds of things and still nothing I can’t even have a organum it’s so sad for me because my husband is so loving and I just don’t understand

Has your physician prescribed Testosterone cream for you to try?

Honestly I have never told or talked about this to anyone I have always just gone with the flow but what would that do for me

I take testosterone in pill form. It helps a bit with my libido. You should talk to you gynecologist about this problem.

Don’t get me wrong my husband and I have a open communication in regards to this. I take medication for anxiety, depression, and for my ADHD so I feel it’s a side affect from them.. and I have had two pregnancy’s and one of them is with twins, I did have things on me checked out just Incase and I’m all good I did bring up the testosterone and I think it scared him so he said he didn’t want me to take it so what other options are out the other then the usual intimacy things.. I have never felt comfortable with that stuff

It helps libido/sex drive.

My gyn prescribes a compounded cream that has estriadol and progesterone with only 2% testosterone. It works. Try experimenting with light bondage , sexy lingerie, vibrators , stay in a hotel, spice it up.. Some folks role play, watch porn , dress up, give yourself an orgasm with him watching, so many ways to work it, it takes work after 20 yrs to get the spark lit, but it will be there. The meds definitely put a damper, so take them afterwards that day. Good Luck, life is too short not to enjoy sex.

Why would some testosterone scare him? Females produce testosterone naturally, and if this natural process is not working anymore, (as with me), one has to supplement this hormone. There is nothing scary about it. I don't take that much that it causes me to masculinize, r grow hair at undesired locations or lose any hair on my head. I just take enough to be in normal female ranges, actually, I am on the low side of those ranges.
It simply allows me to function normal.

Have you tried seeking professional help from a therapist that deals with this specific issue?

There is something that is so much important than sex and that is intimacy. Just my opinion.