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When plans change because of health issues. How do you cope?

Posted by Ginger, Volunteer Mentor @gingerw, Mar 9, 2020

As a society, we look forward to our vacations, or trips, or social outlets and activities. What happens when we have to modify or cancel those plans, because of a health concern, or our own illness?

Recently I decided to cancel a planned for and highly anticipated trip, due to concerns over exposure to crowds and the coronavirus. I live in a very small rural town, and even heading to the closest "big city", that is only about 20,000 people. I had made travel plans last August, for this March, that's a sign of how excited I was. But I deal everyday with immune system issues, and just cannot justify to myself the risk involved. So, I will stay home, and work on my creative endeavors alone, and "watch" through social media, rather than be in a room with 50 other people from all over the country. Waiting to hear if my payments made will be refunded in whole, or not.

What have you had to change? How has your mindset been modified in light of your own health issues? How have you handled the request of an employer to do a business trip that might take you far away? If your plans include young children, how do you explain to them, how things might be different? With Spring vacations/trips looming on the near future, what will you do instead?

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Ginger, Volunteer Mentor | @gingerw | Mar 17, 2020
In reply to @lioness "@gingerw Since I live in a senior building its 296 apartments there has been a lot..." + (show)
@lioness

@gingerw Since I live in a senior building its 296 apartments there has been a lot of adjustments made to keep us elderly or more mature ladies from getting the covid -19virus here ..First all the office personnel are staying home with there families one is here daily for us. They need to be save. All are activities have been cancelled much to our shingrin but its necessary as we can still leave the building and don't want to bring anything in here The government shut down the U.S.Postal service to our building so can you imaging when this is all over it will be like Christmas time opening all the mail and packages Yippee OUr grocery stores have home delivery and also drug stores for meds. so we just entertain ourselves with art ,crafts,singing ,hobbies and people have learned to put there on thinking caps on to get started . This to shall pass . God bless everybody

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@lioness This event may indeed serve to bring residents together even more, as a connected group! That will be a silver lining to all of this, won't it?
Ginger

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lioness | @lioness | Mar 17, 2020

@gingerw Yes it would but I've heard so much negativity here on what all has happened I've seen some people here being active in keeping the rules so yes it is even in our lobby there's a group of people congregating who didn't before so there is a silver lining in all things you just have to look for it

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JK | @contentandwell | Mar 17, 2020
In reply to @lioness "@gingerw Since I live in a senior building its 296 apartments there has been a lot..." + (show)
@lioness

@gingerw Since I live in a senior building its 296 apartments there has been a lot of adjustments made to keep us elderly or more mature ladies from getting the covid -19virus here ..First all the office personnel are staying home with there families one is here daily for us. They need to be save. All are activities have been cancelled much to our shingrin but its necessary as we can still leave the building and don't want to bring anything in here The government shut down the U.S.Postal service to our building so can you imaging when this is all over it will be like Christmas time opening all the mail and packages Yippee OUr grocery stores have home delivery and also drug stores for meds. so we just entertain ourselves with art ,crafts,singing ,hobbies and people have learned to put there on thinking caps on to get started . This to shall pass . God bless everybody

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@lioness Are you and your friends aware of the USPS service that tells you what your mail each day? It would be a good way to know if there was anything important there. I don't understand how they can stop your mail, there could be bills or other important things in it.
It's called "informed delivery" and here is a link to it.
https://faq.usps.com/s/topic/0TOt00000004HFnGAM/Informed-Delivery?tabset-44809=2
JK

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lioness | @lioness | Mar 17, 2020
In reply to @contentandwell "@lioness Are you and your friends aware of the USPS service that tells you what your..." + (show)
@contentandwell

@lioness Are you and your friends aware of the USPS service that tells you what your mail each day? It would be a good way to know if there was anything important there. I don't understand how they can stop your mail, there could be bills or other important things in it.
It's called "informed delivery" and here is a link to it.
https://faq.usps.com/s/topic/0TOt00000004HFnGAM/Informed-Delivery?tabset-44809=2
JK

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@contentandwell and others We got mail It took 4of us calling our Sen Harris,Counclemen and Mayor soon afterwards 3people brought the mail up so people need to know you don't want to mess with old people 😉

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imallears | @imallears | Mar 17, 2020
In reply to @contentandwell "@lioness Are you and your friends aware of the USPS service that tells you what your..." + (show)
@contentandwell

@lioness Are you and your friends aware of the USPS service that tells you what your mail each day? It would be a good way to know if there was anything important there. I don't understand how they can stop your mail, there could be bills or other important things in it.
It's called "informed delivery" and here is a link to it.
https://faq.usps.com/s/topic/0TOt00000004HFnGAM/Informed-Delivery?tabset-44809=2
JK

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@contentandwell
I wasn’t aware there was such a thing so thank you, good to know and I can pass it on.
@lioness
You go girl!

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JK | @contentandwell | Mar 17, 2020
In reply to @imallears "@contentandwell I wasn’t aware there was such a thing so thank you, good to know and..." + (show)
@imallears

@contentandwell
I wasn’t aware there was such a thing so thank you, good to know and I can pass it on.
@lioness
You go girl!

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@imallears It's really great because occasionally if you see you are supposed to have received something and it doesn't come you know something is amiss. That happened to us recently. It was in our mailbox the next day. A neighbor probably got it and put it in our box.
JK

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lioness | @lioness | Mar 17, 2020
In reply to @contentandwell "@imallears It's really great because occasionally if you see you are supposed to have received something..." + (show)
@contentandwell

@imallears It's really great because occasionally if you see you are supposed to have received something and it doesn't come you know something is amiss. That happened to us recently. It was in our mailbox the next day. A neighbor probably got it and put it in our box.
JK

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@contentandwell I will check out that website I wasn't aware so thanks

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Ginger, Volunteer Mentor | @gingerw | Mar 17, 2020
In reply to @contentandwell "@imallears It's really great because occasionally if you see you are supposed to have received something..." + (show)
@contentandwell

@imallears It's really great because occasionally if you see you are supposed to have received something and it doesn't come you know something is amiss. That happened to us recently. It was in our mailbox the next day. A neighbor probably got it and put it in our box.
JK

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@contentandwell I am still signed up for that at the condo where my husband is. In small print it says that it may take a couple more days to actually show up in your mailbox. I find that happens fairly often.
Ginger

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JK | @contentandwell | Mar 17, 2020
In reply to @gingerw "@contentandwell I am still signed up for that at the condo where my husband is. In..." + (show)
@gingerw

@contentandwell I am still signed up for that at the condo where my husband is. In small print it says that it may take a couple more days to actually show up in your mailbox. I find that happens fairly often.
Ginger

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@gingerw our notifications say “will arrive today” and except for that one piece it always has.
JK

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tallyteresa | @tallyteresa | Mar 20, 2020

The change in my plans were not travel.related, but are medical in nature. Was diagnosed with breast cancer 2 weeks ago and had planned to get surgery and subsequent treatment behind me very quickly. The good news is that I should be ok.following all that, but I am now unable to proceed with any of it for the foreseeable future. There is now a moratorium on all non-emergency surgery which I must first have to begin radiation and hormone suppressant.therapy. Trying really hard to find any blessing in the delay, but it is getting harder to stay positive given.the difficulty in even having consults with drs I will need on my care team.

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