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That makes my heart happy to know this mama you met is proud of her son, @mamacita.

A friend of mine has a child in his mid-20s who has Asperger's and lives locally. She is a great mom, but has had a challenging time figuring out how much mothering is appropriate at this juncture in his life.

In order to get him some services he needed to live successfully on his own, she and her husband had to move him to an apartment and basically allow him to fail. She goes to visit and there are bagels and dirty dishes everywhere, he's not taking his meds as he should, and things are in general disarray. I know he struggles getting to his job at a local store regularly, too. Not sure exactly how much of this behavior relates to his diagnosis. So hard for her.

Have you heard of this kind of situation before, @mamacita @sirgalahad @auntieoakley @gingerw, where someone on the spectrum has to prove they cannot live without some help in order to get some help?

Sadly in our current climate, this applies to many things. Autism, mental health, seniors, and the disabled. If you need help you have to be in peril to show you need it before you can get it, and even then................

do you have group homes or industries where neurodiverse and disabled can work together. you need to make a weekly program and plan for him to follow and send mobile phone or Facebook prompts and colour code it .we auties need plans and a programme our executive functioning varies form autie to autie depending on their comorbidities and functionality

sorry folks I am not making sense I just had another big fall at work and reinjured my sciatica and lumbar discs and its the third time trying to get better but I am in shock again

@sirgalahad Yes we would more of us then Trump could handle

@mamacita My buck dressed out at 200 lbs my friend helped me by dragging him to my car .My husband came home from Mrs with s 90 lb mine was 8 pt buck his was a spike buck Didn't let him live it down

@mamacita That was in 70,s

Your are making perfect sense, @sirgalahad.

We do have group homes and some places that are very open to hiring neurodiverse or disabled individuals in our region. Not sure how much flexibility these employers offer versus employees who are neurotypical or able-bodied (e.g., if you don't show up one day, do you automatically lose your position?)

The phone prompts and color coding do seem like a really good way to keep organized. Will have to mention this to my friend at the right moment when she's discussing something related.

So sorry to hear you were injured. Do you know what prompted your fall? Or was it just a random occurrence?

Oh no, @sirgalahad !!! Bless it! Lots of prayers and healing energy sent your way. Get better soon dear friend!
Love and light,
Mamacita Jane

Yes,@lisalucier, we do indeed have these homes. There is a long waiting list but my daughter finally got a place.

And yes, it is basically sink or swim. She takes her medicine pretty well, but the basic activities of daily living are almost more than she can handle.

While she is getting wound care treatment for lymphedema, she is not able to get home care services. Ridiculous.

She really should be in a group home or a nursing home. But we have to give this a try. She doesnt want that option.

We visit frequently and do what we can to help her. Hopefully she will get home health services when the wound care treatment is done.

My daughter is not on the Spectrum. But these apartments are available for all disabled individuals. Sometimes co-morbidities render an Autistic unable to meet their needs without some help.

Thankfully there is help available.

Love and light,
Mamacita Jane