Dementia and nutrition
Hi, my mother has vascular dementia and we’re running into some real difficulties getting her to eat. She is still living independently but recently suffered a TIA and a broken ankle so she has home care for several hours a day. She has always been one to cook and eat big family dinners but in recent months it’s as though she thinks food is the enemy. My siblings and I have filled her freezer and cupboards with nutritious food and meals that we know she loves, but she is refusing to eat anything other than chocolate and bread. Her home care workers can’t convince her to eat. She looks like she is starving to death, and we’re worried that when she gets her cast off her foot and is able to get around on her own again she won’t have the strength to prevent another fall. She seems to be convinced that if she doesn’t eat anything she will attract male suitors with her svelte figure. She has always been somewhat vain but never like this - it’s gotten out of hand in recent months. So I’m wondering if anyone might have useful techniques for convincing her to eat nourishing food. We’re afraid of what’s going to transpire if she doesn’t put some weight on her very skeletal figure soon.
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Thanks for the nudge, Becky! It's a crazy time of year! I do remember when mom would lose her appetite and stop eating. It was very frustrating. Her doctor prescribed a liquid medication called Megace (Megestrol acetate) and it actually worked. It's a liquid. I remember mom would sometimes take it without a fight, and if she wouldn't, we mixed it into a chocolate shake and just didn't tell her. She usually would drink shakes, which you can also mix in something like Boost along with the ice cream. The large straws help with a milk shake. Remember, when loved ones have dementia, you have to bend the rules like telling the truth. You can even say things like, "this is a beauty drink which will make you look YOUNG!" You feel really silly, but if it works, what the heck! Good luck
@tipsytoad, I wanted to check in with you. As the holiday season approaches, does it bring extra challenges for you and your mother?