I can say as a caregiver, the thing I would appreciate is that other's realizes that everything is a catastrophe for the one who is ill or having conditions that intensify as time goes on. Phone calls, can I pick you up something to eat, how are you and really mean it. Small talk is wonderful in a large setting. But what I mean is helpful, thoughtful and don't pretend as a caregiver it sticks out like a sore thumb. I have other support people. Unfortunately family tends to go on like everything is ok. My brother has the same condition as my spouse. He still calls and he is in the end stage of Parkinsons! I think it hurts the most when you hear nothing and you call without hardly anything related to what is happening. I know other's do not wish to hear bad news..but you are living it along with your loved one. Please know I have a listening ear and I will help where I can.