@jakedduck1 You are trying so hard! A gerontologist can act as a specialist or as a PCP. Good idea to try one. I’m sure that your Mom’s current PCP would welcome some help in treating your Mom. He/she may also recommend so physical therapy to help you and your mom do things safely. She might listen to someone who is hired to help, but you don’t want to do that until she’s had a full evaluation so the best decisions are made.
Why are you thinking of a psychologist? I’m not a doctor. I’m a nurse and I would suggest meeting your Mom’s need for safety comes first. Will you let us know how things go, Leonard? Becky

Having been taking care of people many many years, and this is the hardest part. I have seen it often enough to see some similarities. Here are a few. Someone becomes ill, they don’t know what’s happened. Like being in an earthquake. The ground under your feet should be stable, but it isn’t. They are scared and confused. But we don’t like to show those feelings because they make us seem vulnerable. So, we replace them with other things, often, anger, especially directed to the only person we see, the caregiver.
When an animal is injured, it attacks. It knows it has little defense so it tries to scare off anything getting close.
Sometimes, we do something like that, too.
The hardest time I had was caring for my Mom, who would loose it and accuse me of trying to kill her. Now, she knew that wasn’t true, I knew it wasn’t true, but it still hurt. Fortunately for me, my Dad was always there and he could calm her down.
But what about you? Well, perhaps just a warm hug, change the subject, put on soft music, go out in the sunshine. Have an ice cream sundae. Look at old photographs. Do her hair, every woman likes that, or manicure her nails. Even have someone come in to do her nails. Buy new sheets and pillows. Use perfume. Buy pretty soap.
Somehow, replace the drudgery and work with something light.
One thing I did get from Mom was she would say “ Enjoy the little things in life, because when you look back on it, they were the big things after all.
Let me know how it’s going, and you know, I never regretted anything I did for my family, no matter how hard it was.

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Hi
I already asked, doctor refused. I’ll just buy one if I can without prescription otherwise I’ll borrow one from Society for the handicapped. That’s where I donated all my dads equipment.
Jake