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Caring for Mother: She doesn't trust my care. Suggestions?
Caregivers | Last Active: Dec 2, 2019 | Replies (69)Comment receiving replies
@jakedduck1 .your situation sounds tough! And sad because it’s your mother. It’s so difficult when the child becomes the parent. It sounds like your mother is very afraid; afraid of another fall, afraid of losing her independence, afraid of what you’ll think of her, afraid of dying. You might take her to the GP who know her and maybe ask for a referral to a gerontologist. They specialize in the aging process and caring for elderly patients. He/she will better understand what has happened and how the fall has affected your mom.
I agree with @gingerw about having someone else come in so you can get some sleep. That’s so important! You want to keep your humorous personality, we like it!
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I’ve been thinking about her seeing a gerontologist. Is that a specialist or a primary care physician for the elderly. I’m concerned if she goes to one and it doesn’t work out how receptive will her current doctor be in taking her back if the gerontologist is a primary doctor.
I know she is scared. She keeps saying “I can’t” every time I try to get her out of bed or her chair. She leans way back instead of leaning forward. I show her by sitting and bending as far forward as I can showing her how I don’t fall. I took a few videos of her trying to get up and how as soon as I hold her to help she leans way back. I try to explain it is to hard on me to lift dead weight and instead of trying to do it like I show her she says “I don’t want to hurt you. Cant we hire someone. She doesn’t seem to understand if she gets up like that it’s going to be hard on anyone helping. Does she need to see a Psychologist?
Jake