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Importance of focusing on Positive with Depression & Anxiety.

Posted by BoneHead @stsopoci, May 27, 2019

In my journey with the millions of humans who are brave enough to go down the path of recovery without alcohol, bad drug and more drugs, I have gradually more and more discovered how important it is to crawl out of my deep hole, bad attitude, self-importance, feeling sorry for myself, angry, sad, etc, etc, condition and more toward the LIGHT!!! That means changing and moving for me away from some friends that are very negative about everything. That means walking around the block when I get upset so I can calm down and see the light. That means taking care of myself, exercising, eating right and meeting new friends and keeping old friends that are well-balanced. Positivity in life is available to everyone and it's FREE. I have gone on a path throughout my early days of self-medicating with lots of alcohol, drug, etc. I cleaned myself up in 1996, OCT 13th but I still did not feel right until I could ask for help from a professional. Found out I was GAD (inherited from my MOM) and a few other close seconds. I went on medication for years on various meds until I found the chemical that keeps me pretty normal. BUT, BUT...something else was missing because I still suffered through the negativity of every situation that I could create in a moments time.

I love these groups because you are honest with yourself which is very important.
Finding good friends that understand you and the importance of staying positive with your journey through life.
Taking good care of yourself.
We all are unique so what works for me does not always work for you. I'm on 20mg of Lexipro.
What do other people do to stay positive?

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Parus | @parus | Nov 10, 2019
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@sears

Does anyone have success stories about tapering off benzos? All I hear are horror stories. Even one success story would be helpful! Thank you in advance.

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@sears I had no problem with the cessation of benzos. Have not regretted doing so as life is so much healthier and brighter in comparison to being numbed out.
I have also noticed that when reading comments the horror stories far outweigh the successes. Why I stopped reading all of the horror stories. Be encouraged and know there is a better life on the other side of benzos.

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Parus | @parus | Nov 10, 2019
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@smilie- Rest is one of the most important things to good mental health. There are nights and days that I also "buzz" and can't relax or slow my mind, so I just go with it until it burns itself out. Can you tell me more about your sister's abuse?

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@merpreb I so hear you on this one!!! I do the same. Family things can be so complicated. I have always been one to walk away. Easier on me. Forever the passive one.

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Parus | @parus | Nov 10, 2019
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@shermananski

I’m in a very stuck mode at the moment. I’ve started a new therapy with a psychiatrist that’s based in acknowledging and validating emotions. I’m very numb and it seems like a good idea. But yesterday I started down some old paths leading through my divorce. Dredging up really old stuff. I don’t think that’s useful. I’d like to acknowledge my current sadness that my marriage failed, but not contemplate all the whys! I really want to couple therapy with positive mental reinforcements, so this post is timely. I have many positive outlets, mostly outdoor activity based, like birding, but they’ve taken a back seat recently and it scares and frustrates me.

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@shermananski Hello from another birder!! I know when this no longer interests me I need to take some type of action towards not allowing the depression demon to hold me by the throat. Yes, it is scary. Monster scary!! You are coming here-a start. So easy to listen to the old hurts. Cyber hugs.

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Parus | @parus | Nov 10, 2019
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@stsopoci

We all get together with friends and family and talk about what’s happening and catch up on how things are going. But BUT ... please help the group get out of the negativity by talking about other people and how bad or wrong they are and isn’t it awful! After listening to my in-laws for an hour my daughter left and went to the deck. I followed and asked her how’s it going. “The negativity in that room” depresses me” she said. I agreed that we spend to much time making ourselves feel better by putting down others. We sat outside and talked about the exciting future and smiled and laughed.
Inside was no laughing and no smiling but a lot of judging going on.

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@stsopoci I hear this type of thing so much I choose to be mostly solitary. Bashing another to bolster ourselves is pure poison.

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Teresa, Volunteer Mentor | @hopeful33250 | Nov 10, 2019
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@parus

@helenfrances Replaying our faults can be crippling. One of my most harmful habits that I am continually working on. Remind myself I don't have the power to change the past nor do I have the power to ruin the lives of others. I am not that powerful so why do I allow the words/actions of others to have power over me? I endeavor to use past mistakes/failures as stepping stones to a healthier outlook. Key word "try".

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Wow! Those are very powerful thoughts, @parus. When you wrote, "I am not that powerful so why do I allow the words/actions of others to have power over me?" I'd like to quote you some time with those words!

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Teresa, Volunteer Mentor | @hopeful33250 | Nov 10, 2019
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@parus

@merpreb I so hear you on this one!!! I do the same. Family things can be so complicated. I have always been one to walk away. Easier on me. Forever the passive one.

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I don't think you are passive at all, @parus. I see you as taking action when you "walk away" from those who are hurtful. (Even standing your ground is an active stance.)

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Parus | @parus | Nov 10, 2019
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@hopeful33250

Wow! Those are very powerful thoughts, @parus. When you wrote, "I am not that powerful so why do I allow the words/actions of others to have power over me?" I'd like to quote you some time with those words!

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@hopeful33250 Hello my cyber friend!!! Yes, you may. This has become my mantra as I need to remind myself often. Nice to be back in action although taking it slow. Enjoying some time at the "connect" cyber table.

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Parus | @parus | Nov 10, 2019
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@hopeful33250

I don't think you are passive at all, @parus. I see you as taking action when you "walk away" from those who are hurtful. (Even standing your ground is an active stance.)

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@hopeful33250 Thank you as I had not thought of my walking away in this way.

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Teresa, Volunteer Mentor | @hopeful33250 | Nov 10, 2019

Hi All: I subscribe to a blog written by Virginia Laken who was diagnosed with MCI (mild cognitive impairment) several years ago. I subscribe to her post because, in spite of her diagnosis, she is SO very positive. Here is a link to her most recent blog,
https://us16.campaign-archive.com/?e=8d0cf3f7f7&u=fa305ab2b4fe73c3449903522&id=59b7df4bcc
After you read it will you share with me what you thought about?

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Teresa, Volunteer Mentor | @hopeful33250 | Nov 10, 2019
In reply to @parus "@hopeful33250 Hello my cyber friend!!! Yes, you may. This has become my mantra as I need..." + (show)
@parus

@hopeful33250 Hello my cyber friend!!! Yes, you may. This has become my mantra as I need to remind myself often. Nice to be back in action although taking it slow. Enjoying some time at the "connect" cyber table.

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@parus Good to have you back, my cyber buddy!

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