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Importance of focusing on Positive with Depression & Anxiety.

Posted by BoneHead @stsopoci, May 27, 2019

In my journey with the millions of humans who are brave enough to go down the path of recovery without alcohol, bad drug and more drugs, I have gradually more and more discovered how important it is to crawl out of my deep hole, bad attitude, self-importance, feeling sorry for myself, angry, sad, etc, etc, condition and more toward the LIGHT!!! That means changing and moving for me away from some friends that are very negative about everything. That means walking around the block when I get upset so I can calm down and see the light. That means taking care of myself, exercising, eating right and meeting new friends and keeping old friends that are well-balanced. Positivity in life is available to everyone and it's FREE. I have gone on a path throughout my early days of self-medicating with lots of alcohol, drug, etc. I cleaned myself up in 1996, OCT 13th but I still did not feel right until I could ask for help from a professional. Found out I was GAD (inherited from my MOM) and a few other close seconds. I went on medication for years on various meds until I found the chemical that keeps me pretty normal. BUT, BUT...something else was missing because I still suffered through the negativity of every situation that I could create in a moments time.

I love these groups because you are honest with yourself which is very important.
Finding good friends that understand you and the importance of staying positive with your journey through life.
Taking good care of yourself.
We all are unique so what works for me does not always work for you. I'm on 20mg of Lexipro.
What do other people do to stay positive?

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Ginger, Volunteer Mentor | @gingerw | Jul 30, 2019
In reply to @parus "@merbreb I can recall those smokes of years ago. At times the smokes were my comfort..." + (show)
@parus

@merbreb I can recall those smokes of years ago. At times the smokes were my comfort and my companion. Not having them caused me to feel insecure and alone. They were something tangible.
A positive attitude does help with anxiety. I know mine wanes at times. The anxiety has been worse with the diagnosis of bladder cancer. The BCG treatments have had undesirable side effects but I hope it will be worth it. I have had 2 so there are 4 to go. Each treatment the side effects become worse. Feeling alone in this as there is no one to go to for support and going through tough things is such a personal thing.
I know I have support here and it helps with the anxiety. Overall malaise sums it up which is normal under the circumstances I would think.

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@parus I hope our support can be of some comfort to you, as we reach out our cyber arms with hugs and lean our cyber shoulders for you to brace yourself on.
Ginger

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Parus | @parus | Jul 30, 2019
In reply to @gingerw "@parus I hope our support can be of some comfort to you, as we reach out..." + (show)
@gingerw

@parus I hope our support can be of some comfort to you, as we reach out our cyber arms with hugs and lean our cyber shoulders for you to brace yourself on.
Ginger

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@gingerw It has been and continues to be. It is the treatments which intensifies the already existing issues. I am currently blase about things. Pain specialist this morning. I have put the rhizotomy on hold for now as trying to handle more than one thing at a time has not worked well for me in the past. The pain is some better in warmer weather. I also have an appointment with new primary and know I will need to keep my tongue bridled. That is this afternoon. Keep telling myself to have a positive attitude that this one chosen by other primary was in my best interest. I don't really believe thus but it sounds like a goal. The pain specialist is a safe person and this helps. He knows my pain is real and not imagined.

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Merry, Alumni Mentor | @merpreb | Jul 30, 2019
In reply to @parus "@merbreb I can recall those smokes of years ago. At times the smokes were my comfort..." + (show)
@parus

@merbreb I can recall those smokes of years ago. At times the smokes were my comfort and my companion. Not having them caused me to feel insecure and alone. They were something tangible.
A positive attitude does help with anxiety. I know mine wanes at times. The anxiety has been worse with the diagnosis of bladder cancer. The BCG treatments have had undesirable side effects but I hope it will be worth it. I have had 2 so there are 4 to go. Each treatment the side effects become worse. Feeling alone in this as there is no one to go to for support and going through tough things is such a personal thing.
I know I have support here and it helps with the anxiety. Overall malaise sums it up which is normal under the circumstances I would think.

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@parus- Oh yes, they were comfort and pacifying, more the inhale than exhale! As you have learned chemo gives accumulative side effects (words?). They build up in your system, and are meant to.
I found this and it might help? https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/324385.php
Do you have help when you go home? Shopping, etc?

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lioness | @lioness | Jul 30, 2019
In reply to @parus "@stsopoci I also use the 4:1 ratio. Make extra and keep it refrigerated." + (show)
@parus

@stsopoci I also use the 4:1 ratio. Make extra and keep it refrigerated.

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@stsopoci With the heat now here seems like the hummers require more sugar water . Just made some and put some in refrigerator.

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lioness | @lioness | Jul 30, 2019
In reply to @parus "@gingerw It has been and continues to be. It is the treatments which intensifies the already..." + (show)
@parus

@gingerw It has been and continues to be. It is the treatments which intensifies the already existing issues. I am currently blase about things. Pain specialist this morning. I have put the rhizotomy on hold for now as trying to handle more than one thing at a time has not worked well for me in the past. The pain is some better in warmer weather. I also have an appointment with new primary and know I will need to keep my tongue bridled. That is this afternoon. Keep telling myself to have a positive attitude that this one chosen by other primary was in my best interest. I don't really believe thus but it sounds like a goal. The pain specialist is a safe person and this helps. He knows my pain is real and not imagined.

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@parus Open mind parus. But I have a tendency to make my mind up before I meet someone just by looks . It becomes that much harder to keep an open mind . You may find him to be entirely different from you perspective now. Does happen

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trellg132 | @trellg132 | Jul 30, 2019
In reply to @merpreb "@trellg132 - Good morning. I get this! I wonder if we get separation anxiety from cigarettes?..." + (show)
@merpreb

@trellg132 - Good morning. I get this! I wonder if we get separation anxiety from cigarettes? What are some of the things that set you off? What do you usually do for anxiety?

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Yea I have quit smoking but my anxiety sometimes send me to the hosptial but now I might just try and breathe or med

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Parus | @parus | Jul 31, 2019
In reply to @merpreb "@parus- Oh yes, they were comfort and pacifying, more the inhale than exhale! As you have..." + (show)
@merpreb

@parus- Oh yes, they were comfort and pacifying, more the inhale than exhale! As you have learned chemo gives accumulative side effects (words?). They build up in your system, and are meant to.
I found this and it might help? https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/324385.php
Do you have help when you go home? Shopping, etc?

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@merpreb Again, so far so good. I do know I am terribly tired. I don't need anyone here with me. I am able to drive to and from the treatments. Had the 3rd one of 6 this morning. Thanks for the article. As I have mentioned I have told no one about this. I do better alone. When someone else is around I feel the need to be social. I know I am tired. I mostly rest.

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smilie | @smilie | Jul 31, 2019
In reply to @parus "@merpreb Again, so far so good. I do know I am terribly tired. I don't need..." + (show)
@parus

@merpreb Again, so far so good. I do know I am terribly tired. I don't need anyone here with me. I am able to drive to and from the treatments. Had the 3rd one of 6 this morning. Thanks for the article. As I have mentioned I have told no one about this. I do better alone. When someone else is around I feel the need to be social. I know I am tired. I mostly rest.

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Hi Parus, I understand you 200%. I feel the same way. Always ready to go to sleep, be a lone, I’m so very depressed, angry, frustrated, frightened, anxious, confused and are there anymore words that I can use.

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Teresa, Volunteer Mentor | @hopeful33250 | Jul 31, 2019
In reply to @merpreb "@parus- Oh yes, they were comfort and pacifying, more the inhale than exhale! As you have..." + (show)
@merpreb

@parus- Oh yes, they were comfort and pacifying, more the inhale than exhale! As you have learned chemo gives accumulative side effects (words?). They build up in your system, and are meant to.
I found this and it might help? https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/324385.php
Do you have help when you go home? Shopping, etc?

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@merpreb That was a good article about the treatment. I did not know much about it.

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Sundance(RB) | @sundance6 | Jul 31, 2019
In reply to @smilie "Hi Parus, I understand you 200%. I feel the same way. Always ready to go to..." + (show)
@smilie

Hi Parus, I understand you 200%. I feel the same way. Always ready to go to sleep, be a lone, I’m so very depressed, angry, frustrated, frightened, anxious, confused and are there anymore words that I can use.

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Parus & Smile I know this may sound phoney, but truly you're not alone. Know that there are many of us out here that are facing the same battle you are in every day. We all find our different ways to battle this disease! I too have had it all my Life! Some of the Greatest People in the world have been affected by it.
I remember and old friend who always said, Life is not Fair! So understand it that way! Hard fact but true. After this last year with what I have suffered with I understand that there are many more with it worse than I have it!
All of our Prayers and Thoughts are with you!
You are not Alone!
Sundance (RB)

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