Sadness over diagnosis

@grandmar I was the same way we ate everything we shouldn't I cooked in bacon grease flavor so good but it was my son actually when he started eating vegetarian I did to but I still can't give up butter I have cut down and know I need to let it go too .I go between chair and pool for exercise

@catmom777. Hi cat mom, I desperately wanted to talk to you! I am in the same situation! I am 61, unmarried, no children. I just found out I have afib, had severe cellulitis and lymphedema in my rt leg, and had to go on oxygen. I spent a month in a rehab hospital, just getting out a week ago. I take Xarelto, I had a pulmonary embolism. I worry constantly about what will happen to me if something happens to my only sibling, a brother. I will have nowhere to go-will I have to go into a nursing home? We live together and I know I should live elsewhere but I can’t. I can’t abide living alone. He treats me like i am inferior and is constantly angry with me-constantly. Yet he buys me stuff and if I ask him to do something, he will-begrudgingly. He’s like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. Anyway, I saw me in your writing. I have no friends here-I just moved here. So no one came to see me while I was in the hospital-except Rick who works 15 minutes away and only came once a week. I wish I could exercise outside, but there is a ramp to the parking lot and I don’t feel safe on it alone; therefore, I can’t drive myself anywhere. So what’s left is YouTube exercises. I can do those-until my oxygen goes down. I’ve concluded that the best thing to do is stop worrying about the future. My PCP gets mad at me for seeing a pain specialist and taking opioids. She looks me in the face and says “I hate opioids”. She hates that I get anti anxiety medicine from my psychiatrist. But these meds help me cope and stop focusing on my pain and anxiety! So cat mom, I didn’t mean to write so much about myself! It just felt good to have someone who probably understood me. Please let me hear from you.....ironic but I am a dog mom!.......Karen

@karen00 hi Karen, I have heard of places like “adult day care” that pick the person up, bring them to a social center, and bring them home at the end of the day. I think you can do it for whatever number of days a week you want. Would something like that help?
My sister who has no health or physical problems, goes to a senior center once a week and really enjoys it. She drives but I think many of those too have pickup service. Some play games, they have tailored exercise classes, and she has made new friends there.
JK

@karen00 That's a great idea if you are a veteran they pick you up and bring you back ,a friend here had this service

@lioness
You know what? We can only do what we can do. If butter is your 'thing' that makes you able to do everything else, then who really cares? You do a wonderful job!
Ronnie

@grandma Ah thanks Ronnie your post are great with good advice but I watch the amt and only have Irish or Challenge butter

Does anyone have any ideas on what low impact exercises I can do while my ribs are healing. I heard swimming is not good but I don't know. Thx?

@klaubi I am no expert on exercising, but I would think any yoga poses that do not stretch or twist the ribs would be okay. Common sense tells me that impact is your enemy to heal ribs, so maybe stationary bike or walking might work. Any leg work should be okay as long as you can immobilize your torso and avoid jarring it. If you have a total gym you should be able to modify quite a few leg and hip exercises. Those are my ideas. I hope other people have better ideas for you. Good luck.

@lioness I am trying to eat only natural foods. Butter is a natural food, so is bacon grease. The amount is the determining factor for me. I cannot metabolize fat, so I am very careful how much and what kind of fats I use. Butter is one, in minimal amounts instead of cream, gravies, jelly, etc. I count it as a "treat" and allow myself treats on a limited basis. It works better for me that way. I have gastric issues that require a low intake of fiber, so vegan proteins do not work for me and I still use meat for my protein. We do what we have to to survive, right? Blessings.

@2011panc Thanks it is true we do what we have to in portions I think not overdue anything