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~ Depressed and scared, not making it financially ~

Posted by Barb @amberpep, Feb 26, 2019

I'm 74 years old and moved 3 years ago from MD to VA. My girls had hounded me to come down for several years so I finally did it. I sold my condo (at a loss), and a job with a dentist. Well, here I am, and financially I'm just not making it. That amount I earned from the dentist covered me with just a little left over. Now, more than often, I don't have enough. I eeked out just enough for my rent this month, and now there's not even enough for a quart of milk. I get S.S. and what I get goes right out for my rent (usually there's enough), and my son sends me money each month. I'm sickened, depressed, and scared. I live in low income housing, and have a budget that practically squeaks. I'm thinking of starting to sell some of my furniture.
I so wish I'd have stayed in MD, for so many reasons, this being one of them. I have applied for oodles of jobs (they're all on line now), and legally they're not supposed to ask you how old you are (although many do), but they all ask when you graduated from either high school or college .... well, it doesn't take rocket science to figure out how old a person is. I'm so depressed about this, and .so upset that my stomach.constantly churns.
Thanks for letting me vent.
abby

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lioness | @lioness | Aug 31, 2020
In reply to @fiesty76 "@lioness, Linda, you are much more successful with your indoor gardening than I! A tiny bit..." + (show)
@fiesty76

@lioness, Linda, you are much more successful with your indoor gardening than I! A tiny bit green with a touch of envy if allowed??? Yes, I steer away from gossips and nay sayers, too. I've said for years that for me there are 2 broad categories of people: those that bring you down and those that make life better. Why waste time and emotional energy on those who make you feel worse???

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@fiesty76. You are so right I try to stay away from gossip and negativity altogether. Time for chair exercises.In 90,s all week 100,s weekend so those days I,LL stay in

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Barb | @amberpep | Sep 9, 2020
In reply to @colleenyoung "@amberpep, I have recurring issues with plantar fasciitis. Things that help me: - always wear shoes..." + (show)
@colleenyoung

@amberpep, I have recurring issues with plantar fasciitis. Things that help me:
- always wear shoes with support indoors and outdoors. My house shoes are Birkenstocks. I don't go barefoot or sockfooted.
- diligent stretching
- self massage with a frozen water bottle. I roll it back in forth under my foot for 15-20 minutes periodically throughout the day.

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Hi Colleen .... That is one thing I have always been guilty of .... running around barefoot or sock-footed. I guess now I'm paying for it. I have found that one of the styles of Merrell to which I add one of those rubber forms for p.f. works really well for me. I'll have to look at the Birkies .... are they the ones like sandles? or is it another style. It sure takes getting used to to be wearing real shoes all day when I've virtually lived barefooted. Getting out of bed in the AM is the worst ... yeowee! What stretches do you do? I'll have to try the iced water bottle thing. Thanks for the information. Let me know about the Birkies.
abby

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Barb | @amberpep | Sep 9, 2020

Well, I found another job .... a cashier at our Lowes store, right behind me. That will get me out of the house during the day and get my brain doing more than thinking about how much I dislike it down here and worrying about all the things going on in the country. I'm grateful for them to hire an old lady!
abby

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Barb | @amberpep | Sep 9, 2020
In reply to @fiesty76 "@marjou, I bought some "off-the-shelf" inserts at a sporting goods store for my walking tennis shoes...." + (show)
@fiesty76

@marjou, I bought some "off-the-shelf" inserts at a sporting goods store for my walking tennis shoes. A mistake; prescribed and specially made would have been so much better. Eventually found 2 brands of tennis shoes that worked, bottom came unglued so tossed that pr and the brand name has worn away in the current pr. Hope a shoe store can identify the brand when replacement pr is needed.

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Hi fiesty ... I too found 2 types of sneakers that work even without an insert, although I do put one in anyhow. I have a pair of really good NIKE's and also a pair of ASCICS. They are great.
abby

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lioness | @lioness | Sep 9, 2020
In reply to @amberpep "Well, I found another job .... a cashier at our Lowes store, right behind me. That..." + (show)
@amberpep

Well, I found another job .... a cashier at our Lowes store, right behind me. That will get me out of the house during the day and get my brain doing more than thinking about how much I dislike it down here and worrying about all the things going on in the country. I'm grateful for them to hire an old lady!
abby

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@amberpep Glad to hear you have a job now that will help you financially as well as seeing other people maybe a buddy out of it

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marjou | @marjou | Sep 9, 2020
In reply to @amberpep "Well, I found another job .... a cashier at our Lowes store, right behind me. That..." + (show)
@amberpep

Well, I found another job .... a cashier at our Lowes store, right behind me. That will get me out of the house during the day and get my brain doing more than thinking about how much I dislike it down here and worrying about all the things going on in the country. I'm grateful for them to hire an old lady!
abby

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Congratulations!!👏👏

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Jim, Volunteer Mentor | @jimhd | Sep 10, 2020
In reply to @amberpep "Hi fiesty ... I too found 2 types of sneakers that work even without an insert,..." + (show)
@amberpep

Hi fiesty ... I too found 2 types of sneakers that work even without an insert, although I do put one in anyhow. I have a pair of really good NIKE's and also a pair of ASCICS. They are great.
abby

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@amberpep

That's great news, Abby. Your persistence has finally paid off!

Jim

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Dana, Volunteer Mentor | @danab | Sep 10, 2020
In reply to @amberpep "Well, I found another job .... a cashier at our Lowes store, right behind me. That..." + (show)
@amberpep

Well, I found another job .... a cashier at our Lowes store, right behind me. That will get me out of the house during the day and get my brain doing more than thinking about how much I dislike it down here and worrying about all the things going on in the country. I'm grateful for them to hire an old lady!
abby

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@amberpep That's Awesome it will be a great way to meet people also.
Dana

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Becky, Volunteer Mentor | @becsbuddy | Sep 10, 2020
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@amberpep

Well, I found another job .... a cashier at our Lowes store, right behind me. That will get me out of the house during the day and get my brain doing more than thinking about how much I dislike it down here and worrying about all the things going on in the country. I'm grateful for them to hire an old lady!
abby

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@amberpep CONGRATULATIONS! Just smile at everyone and be yourself!

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fiesty76 | @fiesty76 | Sep 10, 2020
In reply to @amberpep "Well, I found another job .... a cashier at our Lowes store, right behind me. That..." + (show)
@amberpep

Well, I found another job .... a cashier at our Lowes store, right behind me. That will get me out of the house during the day and get my brain doing more than thinking about how much I dislike it down here and worrying about all the things going on in the country. I'm grateful for them to hire an old lady!
abby

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@amberpep, Congratulations on your new job! Hope it goes well for you.

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