I am a newbie caregiver. My husband (75)will be the kidney recipient, my daughter (36) the kidney donor in April this year, at Mayo Scottsdale. Thank you all for sharing your lives..it can’t be easy, but please know that by doing so, you give incredible support to others. I am a nurturer, and feel as though it is up to me to make things right, and blame myself when things go sideways, regardless if they are within my control! I have gained so much insight through you all: keep a journal, ask questions, walk, walk away to take a breath, breathe, pack things to make my people comfortable post surgery, do not try to control the impossible, try to be a better person, as you all are. I know I will continue to lurk here!