Do not avoid it. Push yourself to face what makes you anxious. You will realize the next time you face it, it won’t be as bad. Essentially, you are proving your anxiety wrong. Instead of avoiding the situation that makes you anxious, use it to your advantage. A little bit of anxiety can actually be channeled into a better performance.
Hello. I've been having alot of trouble with my and and panic attacks. As strange as this sounds I have trouble with just letting my thoughts flow. It's like I'm scared of my own thoughts after having anxiety and panic attacks. It's like I'm constantly scared of my thoughts. I just can't calm down and just think freely. Does anyone relate to what I'm going through?
You are certainly not alone. I have all those feelings too and at my wits end on what to do. My doctor has given me pills to take but they really don't help at all. It is that I see all these happy people with familes and they are laughing and smiling and I am unable to do that. I feel lost an afraid and yes very anxious. Patti
Do not avoid it. Push yourself to face what makes you anxious. You will realize the next time you face it, it won’t be as bad. Essentially, you are proving your anxiety wrong. Instead of avoiding the situation that makes you anxious, use it to your advantage. A little bit of anxiety can actually be channeled into a better performance.
@aston I like that concept of "proving your anxiety wrong". What you can do is replace your thinking with another approach of how to think about something in a more positive way. Use creativity as a guide to figure this out, like a detective. When you find the event that colored your thinking, you can re-evaluate it and see it through fresh eyes and from a more experienced perspective, and you might just find that the former thoughts don't make sense anymore... then you've grown and can be grateful for new thinking and understanding. You're right, anxiety can be an inspiration to achieve great things.
Yes, worry. My parents were worrisome people, but alot was going on in their lives. I also tend to worry. I have to remind myself to give my issues to the divine since they are too much for me. And, worry just doesn't seem to achieve anything.
Yes, worry. My parents were worrisome people, but alot was going on in their lives. I also tend to worry. I have to remind myself to give my issues to the divine since they are too much for me. And, worry just doesn't seem to achieve anything.
@psearby17- Good morning. I'm a worrier too. My middle name should be "what if". One way to lessen and gain control is to make a list. Then go back and see which things you can control. Those are the ones that need action. The other ones need to be at the very bottom of your list because you have no control over them, you can't change them. Might be a great idea just to put them away.
Hi, @pjss48 - I've had times in my life where nervousness or worry were problems, either because I was in the middle of something stressful, or anticipating something stressful, or that felt overwhelming (e.g., we're preparing our home to sell and move across town, and I've had a couple of nights where my mind was racing and worrying, thinking of a million things we would have to do to get our home "perfect" for the market).
At times when I've experienced nervousness and worry, I've found they were telling me something, like when I was engaged a few years before my current marriage and finally realized after several months my nervousness was telling me something was wrong with proceeding with getting married. Other times, I've found that nervousness and worry were mostly results of my own thought patterns (e.g., I'm feeling worried all day because I'm telling myself repeatedly that I've ruined the hardwood floor by running a humidifier in the room last night, which leaked in a giant puddle, and that it will cost us a couple of thousand dollars to have to refinish the floor and fix it).
When I am worrying about something, often times my husband asks me kindly, "Is that helping?" And, of course, I have to respond, "No, my worrying's not really helping." I was taught some cognitive behavioral therapy techniques a couple years back, and I found them very helpful in a period where worry or nervousness were cropping up — the process of jotting down my repetitive thoughts throughout the day, analyzing them for patterns, and then countering them. I realized that sometimes I can be "killing myself" with my own thought patterns (sort of the "Gee, no wonder I feel lousy - I've been telling myself all day I did a lousy job in giving that speech, or painting that room, or handling that conversation.")
@pjss48 I have been reading a lot about IBS-D recently because I may have it. I am not entirely sure if it's lactose intolerance, IBS-D, or IBD. I have an appointment next week with a gastro's NP but I think I am going to the wrong person. I think they will refer me to a different gastro who specializes in this. Once you have one gastro, you apparently have to go through that doctor to go to another.
What are you doing for your IBS? So far I have eliminated dairy primarily but the reason I think it may be more than lactose intolerance is that even on some days when I have no dairy, I still have D. Imodium helps very slightly, better than nothing. I have read that anxiety can contribute to IBS. Mine began after I started taking immunosuppressants (post liver transplant). It took me a very long time to put 2 and 2 together and discover that dairy was a trigger.
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Do not avoid it. Push yourself to face what makes you anxious. You will realize the next time you face it, it won’t be as bad. Essentially, you are proving your anxiety wrong. Instead of avoiding the situation that makes you anxious, use it to your advantage. A little bit of anxiety can actually be channeled into a better performance.
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8 ReactionsYou are certainly not alone. I have all those feelings too and at my wits end on what to do. My doctor has given me pills to take but they really don't help at all. It is that I see all these happy people with familes and they are laughing and smiling and I am unable to do that. I feel lost an afraid and yes very anxious. Patti
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5 Reactions@aston I like that concept of "proving your anxiety wrong". What you can do is replace your thinking with another approach of how to think about something in a more positive way. Use creativity as a guide to figure this out, like a detective. When you find the event that colored your thinking, you can re-evaluate it and see it through fresh eyes and from a more experienced perspective, and you might just find that the former thoughts don't make sense anymore... then you've grown and can be grateful for new thinking and understanding. You're right, anxiety can be an inspiration to achieve great things.
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7 ReactionsYes, worry. My parents were worrisome people, but alot was going on in their lives. I also tend to worry. I have to remind myself to give my issues to the divine since they are too much for me. And, worry just doesn't seem to achieve anything.
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3 Reactions@healthytoday - sometimes when I'm actively worrying about something, my husband will kindly and gently ask me, "Does that help?"
I always have to admit, "Well, no, it's really not."
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6 ReactionsI like the way you think Lisa. Give the worry up to the Divine. I'm going to take this on. It may help me.
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3 Reactions@psearby17- Good morning. I'm a worrier too. My middle name should be "what if". One way to lessen and gain control is to make a list. Then go back and see which things you can control. Those are the ones that need action. The other ones need to be at the very bottom of your list because you have no control over them, you can't change them. Might be a great idea just to put them away.
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5 ReactionsMy worry got worse after a major panic attack when my husband lost his job. My thinking is negative. I don't sleep well either. And I have IBSD
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1 Reaction@pjss48 I have been reading a lot about IBS-D recently because I may have it. I am not entirely sure if it's lactose intolerance, IBS-D, or IBD. I have an appointment next week with a gastro's NP but I think I am going to the wrong person. I think they will refer me to a different gastro who specializes in this. Once you have one gastro, you apparently have to go through that doctor to go to another.
What are you doing for your IBS? So far I have eliminated dairy primarily but the reason I think it may be more than lactose intolerance is that even on some days when I have no dairy, I still have D. Imodium helps very slightly, better than nothing. I have read that anxiety can contribute to IBS. Mine began after I started taking immunosuppressants (post liver transplant). It took me a very long time to put 2 and 2 together and discover that dairy was a trigger.
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1 ReactionI like the youtube series Yoga with Adriane. Practice yoga in your home, especially relaxing breathing.
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