@lisalucier @stulerner I have taken lorazepam, but I get 10 pills a year from my PCP, of the lowest dose and only use them when my mind is really whirling around, such as when I have a very busy day the next day, or am traveling the next day. On a more regular basis I do use 3 mg of melatonin, but that too is only occasional and I'm not really sure that it helps. I also use, occasionally, a half of a Benadryl tablet. That definitely helps me to fall asleep but I think it's less restful sleep.
I have tried a lavender spray on my pillow, and one that is a facial spray but that has not helped. Maybe my sense of smell isn't good enough for it. I have also tried drinking chamomile tea before bed.
I try all of these things but the only two that I know for sure work are the lorazepam and the Benedryl. I use the others but often think they are not really helping, but I figure maybe falling asleep would be more difficult without them.
I hope you can find something that will help you, and if you do please let me know what it is. I really do not like taking lorazepam because it is habit forming so I would not want to take it regularly, and my PCP would not give it to me in a larger quantity because he is a gnat about drugs.
JK