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Depression and Anxiety at an older age

Posted by pjss48 @pjss48, Sep 14, 2018

I am a 70 year old woman who has had depression and anxiety for a long time. It got worse 3 years ago when my husband lost one of his jobs. I panicked and my anxiety increased. I was afraid to do things. like driving. I have arthritis pretty bad and foot problems. I'm a Christian and my faith has helped me. My husband was a pastor and our church closed 3 months ago. We've had continual stress. Sometimes I don't know what to do with myself during the day. I've gotten help from several doctors, including a psychiatrist. I also have IBS. I am better. I'm taking trazadone duloxetine, remeron and xanax. Also on osteo biflex, probiotic , bentyl and celebrex. I want to get on Sam e but it may interact with one of my meds. Thanks for listening.

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lsittll | @lsittll | Aug 21, 2020

@woogie yes i am sure that would be a good idea. There a lot of us who have gone through that. I did several times myself. In fourth grade a teacher took me in a room where no one was and threw me against the wall. My brother's birlfriend and my brother took me by the hands and feet and threw me one the ground after I got out of college. I had a verbaly abusive mother all my childhood. Then about five years ago my neurologist verbally abused me during one of my office visits. I've had enough of it but I've been able to let it go over my shoulder.

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Jim, Volunteer Mentor | @jimhd | Aug 21, 2020
In reply to @woogie "I have a question concerning the pain in your feet--is it caused by spinal stenosis? I..." + (show)
@woogie

I have a question concerning the pain in your feet--is it caused by spinal stenosis? I have spinal stenosis. I have pain in my back and it radiates down my right leg into my foot. I take pain pills. I need something for my depression. My doctor doesn't actually know how bad it is. I haven't told her. I take so many pills as it is, I don't know what wouldn't interfere with them. I am up and down. I have read where it is called rapid cycling. I don't know if I need uppers or downers! I am not kidding. If I had all of you depressed people in one room for a group meeting, I guarantee you, I would have you laughing. Then, after everyone leaves, I go home, I am super depressed. I need people. This isolation is really making me anxious. I could write a book. I will close for the moment. Take care--all of you. God bless and be with you. The Bible says laughter is the best medicine. Yes, it is. Also, another question! Does your doctor ever give you epidurals for the pain?

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@woogie The pain in my feet and ankles is gradually moving up my legs. Small fiber peripheral neuropathy is the primary culprit, but the neurosurgeon who's going to do the decompression said that stenosis might be responsible for some of it. I won't know until I've recovered from surgery exactly how much of the pain is because of stenosis.

Mental ill health is often due to past abuse, of course, obviously especially true with civilian PTSD. I was raised in a loving home with my 5 siblings, and abuse was never an issue during that time in my life. It came as an adult, working under narcissistic, controlling bosses and fellow staff members, and working as an EMT contributed to it.

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Jim

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lolaemma | @lolaemma | Aug 21, 2020
In reply to @woogie "Parus, perhaps we should start a group who have had abusive pasts. I would be a..." + (show)
@woogie

Parus, perhaps we should start a group who have had abusive pasts. I would be a member.

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Oh yes. A lot of depression and anxiety are part of PTSD. from domestic violence. Just guessing that we are from the ' good old days' when cruelty was part of our lives disguised as tough love. Humiliation perceived as teasing. Whew have to stop reliving my childhood and get to the uplifting part. With .modern attitudes our pain is identified differently. Once you deal with the past emotionally relieving the physical pain is easier. Only with professional help is there a clear path. I spent 3 decades taking medications for anxiety and ' phantom' pain. Jumping into relationships with other sufferers just stretched out the years and pain. Taking partial responsibility for my children's life issues is like seasoning to my quest for something to remove the pain. It's difficult to let go of our physical pain without quieting our minds.
Along the way we need a club of same souls. It may be larger than. first expected. Im' in let's go!

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fiesty76 | @fiesty76 | Aug 21, 2020
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@woogie

Hi. I am wondering how you are doing! I was thinking if I had your address, I would send you a card in the mail. I had five boxes of cards delivered to my home (since I don't go to stores). I got them from the Christian Card Company. I love sending cards to people. These cards have Bible verses in them. I got two boxes the same because they are so cute with bunnies an teddie bears on them. I have already sent one full box. I got my dear 94-year-old Christian sister four boxes. She loves writing scripture in cards and sending them to the sick and the lonely. She is a wonderful, strong Christian. I was depressed the other evening--she called me on the phone--we talked for an hour. I was not depressed after we talked. Every one needs a person like her in their life. I met her at an in-home Bible study. The lady who started it went on to be with the Lord. Now, we are supposed to be meeting in a church. She is actually attending--I am not. She is so certain she is going to Heaven, she is looking forward to it. When I read the Bible, I get depressed wondering if I am going to Heaven. I have sinned so much after being saved. I feel guilty. I know Jesus died for me and for you. He came to save the sinners. This I understand. It is so complicated. I know I love Jesus, I love God and I have the Holy Spirit. Anyway, I think of you, I pray each day you are better and better. Repeat, Heal me O' Lord, and I will be healed. There is a wonderful book by Joseph Prince on healing.

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@woogie, You sound like a very caring person. I bet the people who receive your cards do appreciate your thoughtfulness.

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fiesty76 | @fiesty76 | Aug 21, 2020
In reply to @mothergoose76 "Hi, I can relate and have days of negativity. Then, thanks to my meds, I have..." + (show)
@mothergoose76

Hi, I can relate and have days of negativity. Then, thanks to my meds, I have a few good days. One phrase that irks me is “you are not alone,” Because we are, but thanks to sites like this we are all alone together.

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@mothergoose76, I really like what you wrote that being in groups like these, "we are all alone together".

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nanashelly | @nanashelly | Aug 21, 2020
In reply to @lolaemma "Oh yes. A lot of depression and anxiety are part of PTSD. from domestic violence. Just..." + (show)
@lolaemma

Oh yes. A lot of depression and anxiety are part of PTSD. from domestic violence. Just guessing that we are from the ' good old days' when cruelty was part of our lives disguised as tough love. Humiliation perceived as teasing. Whew have to stop reliving my childhood and get to the uplifting part. With .modern attitudes our pain is identified differently. Once you deal with the past emotionally relieving the physical pain is easier. Only with professional help is there a clear path. I spent 3 decades taking medications for anxiety and ' phantom' pain. Jumping into relationships with other sufferers just stretched out the years and pain. Taking partial responsibility for my children's life issues is like seasoning to my quest for something to remove the pain. It's difficult to let go of our physical pain without quieting our minds.
Along the way we need a club of same souls. It may be larger than. first expected. Im' in let's go!

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I'm in too let's go!!!

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laurry | @laurry | Aug 22, 2020
In reply to @lolaemma "Oh yes. A lot of depression and anxiety are part of PTSD. from domestic violence. Just..." + (show)
@lolaemma

Oh yes. A lot of depression and anxiety are part of PTSD. from domestic violence. Just guessing that we are from the ' good old days' when cruelty was part of our lives disguised as tough love. Humiliation perceived as teasing. Whew have to stop reliving my childhood and get to the uplifting part. With .modern attitudes our pain is identified differently. Once you deal with the past emotionally relieving the physical pain is easier. Only with professional help is there a clear path. I spent 3 decades taking medications for anxiety and ' phantom' pain. Jumping into relationships with other sufferers just stretched out the years and pain. Taking partial responsibility for my children's life issues is like seasoning to my quest for something to remove the pain. It's difficult to let go of our physical pain without quieting our minds.
Along the way we need a club of same souls. It may be larger than. first expected. Im' in let's go!

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I would love to be a part of a discussion of depression, anxiety, alcohol dependence and emotional abuse. What a wonderful quote....alone together

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laurry | @laurry | Aug 22, 2020
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@parus

To those of us with civilian PTSD, treatment resistant major depression, anxiety. etc. as well as chronic pain. I oft wonder how much our past plays in these types of disorders (such a distasteful word as I feel freakish enough) were caused by abusive pasts. a lot I would surmise. The reality of this is evidence enough that many here are tenacious as we drag these weights with us. No self pity just my wandering/wondering mind that marvels at the determination in the events of seemingly insurmountable odds. Together we stand strong and we do matter.
Thanks for the input everyone.

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I think that is a very important point. Thank you,

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lolaemma | @lolaemma | Aug 22, 2020
In reply to @laurry "I would love to be a part of a discussion of depression, anxiety, alcohol dependence and..." + (show)
@laurry

I would love to be a part of a discussion of depression, anxiety, alcohol dependence and emotional abuse. What a wonderful quote....alone together

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@laurry have you been in contact with AA? Alcohol dependency was the first anonymous program. If you are not in contact with them it has support groups for family including alateens and friends. Not trying to push you away however substance dependency has a combination that has a different starting focus.

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lilypaws | @lilypaws | Aug 22, 2020
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@woogie

I have a question concerning the pain in your feet--is it caused by spinal stenosis? I have spinal stenosis. I have pain in my back and it radiates down my right leg into my foot. I take pain pills. I need something for my depression. My doctor doesn't actually know how bad it is. I haven't told her. I take so many pills as it is, I don't know what wouldn't interfere with them. I am up and down. I have read where it is called rapid cycling. I don't know if I need uppers or downers! I am not kidding. If I had all of you depressed people in one room for a group meeting, I guarantee you, I would have you laughing. Then, after everyone leaves, I go home, I am super depressed. I need people. This isolation is really making me anxious. I could write a book. I will close for the moment. Take care--all of you. God bless and be with you. The Bible says laughter is the best medicine. Yes, it is. Also, another question! Does your doctor ever give you epidurals for the pain?

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@woogi I learned how to send a private message. So, I sent you one. Love and Faith

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