Al, just re-read your post, you have been doing this for 3 1/2 years...could FIL get "respite care" occasionally at a care center? YOU need a break Al from your routine. When my husband of 50 years was on hospice, I was told that his hospice group would pay for time ever so often if I needed it....it was offered, not needed or wanted ever, he was easy to care for. Could hospice be an option for you? Imagine your world is getting smaller isn't it.