This is indeed a discouraging situation. I have a close relative with mental illness--a 40-year history of family destruction. He is in denial, is completely uncooperative, and very demanding. Treats his caregivers with contempt; we get the four-letter words, yelling and screaming, but no end of the expectation of complete financial support. I would like to say "I am done," which is the truth. But other relatives believe in being martyrs. Sorry to be so down, but after 40 years, I have found that there are no answers, only endurance.