@godsgiver I just read your post. You are in quite a difficult situation that is not emotionally healthy for you and maybe not for your wife or marriage either. Just because you have experience in the disorder does not mean that you are the best caretaker for this man, particularly since you have been told so many unflattering things about him. It is one thing to care for such a person on one shift at work, it is quite another to provide 24 hour care with no respite. God Bless you for what you have already done. I strongly suggest you look into some outside resources for your situation. There may be a day service, respite care form Easter Seals (or another group), or even look at moving him into a care home. I would do this not to be vindictive or punish him, but to do what is best for everybody. You sound close to burnout, which would be bad for everyone. My prayers remain with you. Blessings.