@gaylea1 I can imagine how difficult that must have been for you. I was only called the one time, and i don’t recall it ever being mentioned that it was possible I would be called to be a backup. When they called it sounded pretty certain that it was “a go”, the only possible thing being that they might split the liver. That didn’t happen so I guess the other potential recipient was not as good a match.
I did have a similar experience for a much less serious surgery. I was about to have a knee replacement, IV in and all, and the surgeon came to me and told me could not do it because my platelet count was too low. We knew my platelets were borderline so my hemotologist put me on prednisone which did bring them up, but they plummeted again. Of course that was from my yet to be diagnosed cirrhosis. I did finally have that knee done a year after my transplant. They said I could do it in 6 months bit I couldn’t bear the thought of another hospital stay.
I am sure if you were that close that the real call will come very soon. We will all be waiting to hear when it does.
JK