Hello @cindyt63,

Thanks for sharing the story about your husband's personality changes as a result of his surgeries. Have you discussed any of these changes with his physician? It could be that he might be dealing with some low-grade depression. When patients spend time in the ICU, Post-Intensive Care Syndrome often results. You might want to see the discussion on Connect about that topic. Here is the link,
https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/post-intensive-care-syndrome-pics-lets-talk/?pg=35#comment-313366
You are correct when you say, "It is up to us to do our research and learn as much as we can." It is important for every patient and their family members to do as much research as possible regarding their health conditions. In this way, all become better health-care consumers and take care of ourselves better.