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Personality Change of Kidney Transplant Patient
Caregivers | Last Active: Nov 21, 2023 | Replies (63)Comment receiving replies
Wow paradis you hit the nail on the head. I experience much the same , a self centred. Rude screaming verbally abusive man. Everything is my fault and I’m the stupidest
most ignorant person he’s ever known. His language directed at me is vile. He has hysterical vicious outbursts of anger over the smallest things.
I just can’t stand it. Don’t deserve being treated like this ... and will soon file for divorce. This situation has gradually become worse and I don’t see it getting better. One day his anger will be directed at me physically ... it’s been too close for comfort. I’m getting out, while I’m still alive. I am terrified of his outbursts. He totally loses it!
I don’t care what anyone thinks of me. Yes, I’m leaving the ship before it goes down.
( yes I’ve tried everything, the church, Dr counseling. Now it’s time for the lawyer). This is s second rotten marriage. I’m done !
Thank you for listening. Amen!!
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Hello @hullegan and welcome to Mayo Connect,
I am so sorry to hear about your stressful marriage relationship following your husband's transplant. I can tell you are angry and frightened by his behavior and it is normal to want to protect yourself. I encourage you to do what you need to do in order to keep yourself both physically and emotionally safe. At Mayo Connect we care. Will you post again and provide an update on your situation?
Hello @destmg96
It has been a while since you first posted. How are you doing? Have you taken the necessary steps to find safety for yourself and your children?
Hello @paradis
How are you doing these days? Have you found some help for yourself?
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@hullegan Welcome to Mayo Clinic Connect. As others have noted, personality changes after a transplant can be fairly dramatic and drastic to not only the patient, but family and friends. Have you talked to your husband about this change in personality? What was he like before transplant? How long was he on dialysis, and did he have a good medical team to help guide him through the process? Have you had joint counseling or discussions with the transplant social worker? I wonder if a modification in his medications might help the situation? It's sad to hear that you feel you need to file for divorce, but your safety [physical, mental, and emotional] is paramount. Do you have a place that you can go to in case he has an outburst when he finds out about the filing for divorce? I would be careful and make sure that a few trusted friends know your situation. We hope that you will come back here and tell us how you are doing. We care.
Ginger