@delba Welcome to Mayo Connect. Going through something life-changing like a transplant affects the patient plus the entire family. Talk to the transplant team and/or medical center social worker about the changes you've seen, get their opinion on it all. Sometimes a patient realizes a new boundary that pre-transplant had precluded them from, or perhaps they feel special treatment is to be expected because of the surgery. My husband was transplanted 1 Oct 2016.
Ginger

So glad to find your post. My husband completely changed after his transplant and left me not quite 2 years later. It’s heartbreaking.

I, too, am struggling with this. My husband was transplanted in May 2017 (so 4 years now) and he is a totally different person. It was very prominent the first year after transplant and then seemed to get a bit better; however, the last few months have been awful. He is nervous and anxious and also has some OCD that has appeared. We've been married 36 years but not sure I can go on like this. It makes me very sad.