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Adults On The Autism Spectrum

Posted by Mamacita, Alumna Mentor @mamacita, Apr 29, 2018

Maybe you were really shy as a child. Perhaps you took home a huge stack of books from the school library, read them, and returned them the next day. Or did your best friend find you crying in your closet, unable to answer the question "Why?" At any rate, your life could be traced to the Self-Help section of the local bookstore. Unfortunately, most of the books were not much help. ADHD seemed to fit, at times. Your shrink said you might be Bi-Polar, although she wasn't really certain. All you knew was that you rarely fit in, anywhere. One day at work, it hit you square in the face: I don't speak these people's language! Really, it was like you were all playing this game, and everyone knew the rules but you. You couldn't tell a joke, and you never "got" any joke your co-worker tried to tell you. People started getting annoyed with you, because you had a memory like a steel trap. They didn't appreciate it when you called them on the carpet. Who knew? This was my life, and worse. I finally aced several tests that pointed me to the answer to my questions. The Autism Spectrum. Guess what? Little kids with Autism grow up to be Adults with Autism. Diagnosed late in life? This is the place for you!

Interested in more discussions like this? Go to the Autism (ASD) Support Group.

sirgalahad | @sirgalahad | Oct 16, 2018
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@mamacita

Good morning kiddos! Mamacita here with a post for you all to check out today. If you are on social media (Facebook) please do check out what Judy Endow has shared. Why it is hard to function as a "High Functioning" Autistic. See what you think and let me know? TTYL

Mamacita

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as you knows I am sorta of here and not having seriously considered and planned suicide its a struggle to keep going but I am bloody minded Australian and try and go on

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Ginger, Volunteer Mentor | @gingerw | Oct 16, 2018
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Good morning kiddos! Mamacita here with a post for you all to check out today. If you are on social media (Facebook) please do check out what Judy Endow has shared. Why it is hard to function as a "High Functioning" Autistic. See what you think and let me know? TTYL

Mamacita

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@mamacita I am not on Facebook. Yep, one of the few, right? Sorry I cannot see what she is saying. I can only go on what my difficulties are as a "high functioning" (altho there are days I wonder how high that is!) Autie.
Ginger

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Mamacita, Alumna Mentor | @mamacita | Oct 16, 2018

@gingerw , I will work on getting the article to you in some Neurotypical fashion. Sorry my brain cells don't function really well this time of the day. But I will try again tomorrow!
Adios,
Mamacita

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mjsmimi | @mjsmimi | Oct 18, 2018
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Hi, @mjsmimi - thinking of you. Wondering how you are doing?

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@@@ Hello All,
I am doing well all considering. The head shudders from the detox of effexor are off the hook today. I am down to 25 daily. I cut in half and try to make it on 12.5. Struggling today. Been walking 2 to 4 miles daily. That usually helps with the depression for a while but it usually returns. Also continuing the MCT oil. On the fence whether it helps or not? In a nut shell, I am depressed and struggling not to be. I am not sure what I am supposed to do? I need to sell my house and move where I don't feel threatened. I can not live there if BF is around. I don't trust him or any intentions he may have. I am still convinced he is a psycho with harmful tendencies. He has so much anger bottled up inside him it is scary. I feel for anyone he gets involved with. I do know he wouldn't physically harm his children.He did find out that His ex wife( well not ex they have been seperated for 4 years now), has been abusing the middle daughter. She is seeking help at school with a counselor. Its hard not to listen when he wants to talk, we were friends for a very long time. I know I need to cut ties totally but the youngest daughter who lived with me stays in touch. She is very sweet and so innocent. I can't turn my back on her. She is an innocent child. It is very painful though as the tears roll down as I type. Why does life have to be so difficult?
On a positive note I am spending a lot more time with my 3 year old granddaughter. She soothes my heart and soul. Such a sweet little munchkin. Love her to pieces. Thats about it for now Thanks for your thoughts. I am hanging in there. I will make it through this also.
As always, pouring my thoughts to all of you is so helpful. Thanks for listening.

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Mamacita, Alumna Mentor | @mamacita | Oct 18, 2018
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@mjsmimi

@@@ Hello All,
I am doing well all considering. The head shudders from the detox of effexor are off the hook today. I am down to 25 daily. I cut in half and try to make it on 12.5. Struggling today. Been walking 2 to 4 miles daily. That usually helps with the depression for a while but it usually returns. Also continuing the MCT oil. On the fence whether it helps or not? In a nut shell, I am depressed and struggling not to be. I am not sure what I am supposed to do? I need to sell my house and move where I don't feel threatened. I can not live there if BF is around. I don't trust him or any intentions he may have. I am still convinced he is a psycho with harmful tendencies. He has so much anger bottled up inside him it is scary. I feel for anyone he gets involved with. I do know he wouldn't physically harm his children.He did find out that His ex wife( well not ex they have been seperated for 4 years now), has been abusing the middle daughter. She is seeking help at school with a counselor. Its hard not to listen when he wants to talk, we were friends for a very long time. I know I need to cut ties totally but the youngest daughter who lived with me stays in touch. She is very sweet and so innocent. I can't turn my back on her. She is an innocent child. It is very painful though as the tears roll down as I type. Why does life have to be so difficult?
On a positive note I am spending a lot more time with my 3 year old granddaughter. She soothes my heart and soul. Such a sweet little munchkin. Love her to pieces. Thats about it for now Thanks for your thoughts. I am hanging in there. I will make it through this also.
As always, pouring my thoughts to all of you is so helpful. Thanks for listening.

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Hey, @mjsmimi , how are you doing this afternoon? I am so proud of you for walking! That is one of the best things we can ever do for ourselves! Sounds like .maybe a little bit of sress has been taken off your shoulders. For that, I am very grateful.

Also, I am so encouraged that you have set boundaries for yourself. When we come to realize that we are not safe where we are, and decide to do something about it, well, that just takes strength. And courage. You are very brave for taking the steps you have already taken.

Your love and affection for those children tell me what a kind heart you have. You deserve to be safe as much as they do.

My hope is that you continue this plan of action, and that you will concentrate on first things first. The depression worries me, because I am not quite sure why you are weaning off the medication for it. I must have missed something somewhere.

I hope that you have a good doctor who is advising you on this. Sometimes it takes a while to determine what route to take, with depression. I have dealt with it almost all of my life. Will you be taking a different antidepressant when you are totally off the present one? For me, an antidepressant is as necessary as insulin is for a diabetic. I personally have tried just about every approach there is. I just get worse and worse, without those chemicals my body does not seem to make on its own.

Everyone is different. What works for one doesn't always work the same way for others. And if I have said too much, please know you don't have to answer anything I asked!

I just want you to know I am here for you in my little corner of the world. You are doing great! I will be sending all my positive energies and thoughts, prayers and hugs, your way! Talk to you soon!

Mamacita (Jane)

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mjsmimi | @mjsmimi | Oct 18, 2018
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@mamacita

Hey, @mjsmimi , how are you doing this afternoon? I am so proud of you for walking! That is one of the best things we can ever do for ourselves! Sounds like .maybe a little bit of sress has been taken off your shoulders. For that, I am very grateful.

Also, I am so encouraged that you have set boundaries for yourself. When we come to realize that we are not safe where we are, and decide to do something about it, well, that just takes strength. And courage. You are very brave for taking the steps you have already taken.

Your love and affection for those children tell me what a kind heart you have. You deserve to be safe as much as they do.

My hope is that you continue this plan of action, and that you will concentrate on first things first. The depression worries me, because I am not quite sure why you are weaning off the medication for it. I must have missed something somewhere.

I hope that you have a good doctor who is advising you on this. Sometimes it takes a while to determine what route to take, with depression. I have dealt with it almost all of my life. Will you be taking a different antidepressant when you are totally off the present one? For me, an antidepressant is as necessary as insulin is for a diabetic. I personally have tried just about every approach there is. I just get worse and worse, without those chemicals my body does not seem to make on its own.

Everyone is different. What works for one doesn't always work the same way for others. And if I have said too much, please know you don't have to answer anything I asked!

I just want you to know I am here for you in my little corner of the world. You are doing great! I will be sending all my positive energies and thoughts, prayers and hugs, your way! Talk to you soon!

Mamacita (Jane)

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Hey mamacita,
Thank You for your kind words and thoughts. I am Doing better, I make sure I put my excercise on my priority list. It seems to help. I wanted to go off the effexor myself. I wanted to try and be drug free for and see how my body reacts. I hate having to rely on a drug to function. I am going to give it some time and then see what the doctor sais. He gave me 2 more weeks of the effexor. I have a feeling I am going to need something for the depression, but maybe not. The night sweats have been brutal the last 4 nights. Maybe the bowl of ice cream I consume daily dosen't help. I am finding the older I get I crave sweets. This is something totally new to me. Maybe because I no longer drink wine? Thats loaded with sugar.
I am going to consult with a therapist also. I think I need to be able to vent some of this hurt and anger to someone other than my son and his wife. They don't need my problems interfering with their life. They have a life of there own. I don't want to burden them. I want to be my usual happy a little quirky mom and mimi. This relationship with this guy has really changed me. I need to get back to who I used to be. I have a lot of hurt to deal with and need to stay positive as much as I can. Talk to you soon.
mjsmimi (Pam)

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Mamacita, Alumna Mentor | @mamacita | Oct 18, 2018
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@mjsmimi

Hey mamacita,
Thank You for your kind words and thoughts. I am Doing better, I make sure I put my excercise on my priority list. It seems to help. I wanted to go off the effexor myself. I wanted to try and be drug free for and see how my body reacts. I hate having to rely on a drug to function. I am going to give it some time and then see what the doctor sais. He gave me 2 more weeks of the effexor. I have a feeling I am going to need something for the depression, but maybe not. The night sweats have been brutal the last 4 nights. Maybe the bowl of ice cream I consume daily dosen't help. I am finding the older I get I crave sweets. This is something totally new to me. Maybe because I no longer drink wine? Thats loaded with sugar.
I am going to consult with a therapist also. I think I need to be able to vent some of this hurt and anger to someone other than my son and his wife. They don't need my problems interfering with their life. They have a life of there own. I don't want to burden them. I want to be my usual happy a little quirky mom and mimi. This relationship with this guy has really changed me. I need to get back to who I used to be. I have a lot of hurt to deal with and need to stay positive as much as I can. Talk to you soon.
mjsmimi (Pam)

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Good evening, dear @mjsmimi. How good to hear from you! I agree with you, if we don't absolutely have to have a certain medicine, then why take it? And there are so many things that we can do to help ourselves towards better health than just taking a pill twice a day.

Fresh air, pure water, a bit of sunshine, regular exercise, plenty of rest, time for ourselves, time for others.

Some depression is situational. Circumstances can be changed. Sometimes, of course, they cannot be changed. There are many different kinds of therapies, as wel.

It not always necessary to have a long term plan for counselling. Again, it depends on the person. Here's to you finding a really good one that you feel good about. You sense respect. Interest.
And wisdom to help you work through things.

Good night, love and light!
Mamacita

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stlouisgmajenn | @stlouisgmajenn | Oct 18, 2018
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@mamacita

You are doing the right thing. Get out. Have your phone charged, your meds in zip lock bags inside your purse.

If it was me, there would be not a chance in purgatory that I would be there when he returns. Call Child protective services. She is in danger. You can't leave her but you and her together can get to the police. Do what you have to do. Get a restraining ordet. Go to a women and children's shelter. The police know what to do for you.

This is so complicated because of so many levels. CPS will want names, address, phone numbers of sane, responsible family who can take her in. If there is no one, she may go to a girls home on a temporary basis. She may go into foster care
But her life and yours are in the most extreme danger there could ever possibly be.

My daughter still cries over her best friend who was beaten to death by her husband . He had been released from prison and everything seemed to be going fine.

But he came home one night from work. No one knows exactly what happened. But he has been charged with her death. This woman was a caring, loving friend to my disabled daughter. She was a kind friend to me.

Please, please, please get out of there now with your young teen, and get to the police station. Life is worth living. Don't take any chances. If you must, show your posts in your phone to the officer in charge. This is hard. Be safe. We care about you.

Mamacita

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It's interesting that you mention defending your family no matter what others think. I've done that and been labeled the BAD GUY by the rest of my family. Bad for calling child services, building inspectors, drug enforcement dudes, local police. I seem 2b the only one in my family with a brain.

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Ginger, Volunteer Mentor | @gingerw | Oct 19, 2018
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@mjsmimi

Hey mamacita,
Thank You for your kind words and thoughts. I am Doing better, I make sure I put my excercise on my priority list. It seems to help. I wanted to go off the effexor myself. I wanted to try and be drug free for and see how my body reacts. I hate having to rely on a drug to function. I am going to give it some time and then see what the doctor sais. He gave me 2 more weeks of the effexor. I have a feeling I am going to need something for the depression, but maybe not. The night sweats have been brutal the last 4 nights. Maybe the bowl of ice cream I consume daily dosen't help. I am finding the older I get I crave sweets. This is something totally new to me. Maybe because I no longer drink wine? Thats loaded with sugar.
I am going to consult with a therapist also. I think I need to be able to vent some of this hurt and anger to someone other than my son and his wife. They don't need my problems interfering with their life. They have a life of there own. I don't want to burden them. I want to be my usual happy a little quirky mom and mimi. This relationship with this guy has really changed me. I need to get back to who I used to be. I have a lot of hurt to deal with and need to stay positive as much as I can. Talk to you soon.
mjsmimi (Pam)

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@mjsmimi It's good to hear the positivity in your post! Good for you for being able to step back and look at the situation without emotion, and see what you need to do. I am a big supporter of counseling and therapy when it's needed, and have never felt any shame to reach out when needed. Depression is a mighty funny critter that's for sure. Some people and families are more prone to it, and many times it takes so many forms that it is hard to realize that you truly are suffering from depression. Please let us know how you progress along, and know we are always here for you.
Ginger

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Teresa, Volunteer Mentor | @hopeful33250 | Oct 19, 2018
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@mjsmimi

Hey mamacita,
Thank You for your kind words and thoughts. I am Doing better, I make sure I put my excercise on my priority list. It seems to help. I wanted to go off the effexor myself. I wanted to try and be drug free for and see how my body reacts. I hate having to rely on a drug to function. I am going to give it some time and then see what the doctor sais. He gave me 2 more weeks of the effexor. I have a feeling I am going to need something for the depression, but maybe not. The night sweats have been brutal the last 4 nights. Maybe the bowl of ice cream I consume daily dosen't help. I am finding the older I get I crave sweets. This is something totally new to me. Maybe because I no longer drink wine? Thats loaded with sugar.
I am going to consult with a therapist also. I think I need to be able to vent some of this hurt and anger to someone other than my son and his wife. They don't need my problems interfering with their life. They have a life of there own. I don't want to burden them. I want to be my usual happy a little quirky mom and mimi. This relationship with this guy has really changed me. I need to get back to who I used to be. I have a lot of hurt to deal with and need to stay positive as much as I can. Talk to you soon.
mjsmimi (Pam)

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@mjsmimi
Hello Pam,
It is so good to hear how you are taking care of yourself. You are doing all of the right things!

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