Adults On The Autism Spectrum

@mamacita

My husband isn't on the spectrum, but he is introverted and is losing his hearing. I am also much more sensitive to noise as I age. I'm an extrovert, but crowds bother me now primarily due to the noise. Ronnie purchased Bose Noise-Cancelling Earphones (approx $250) because he loves music and uses them a lot for that. He recently decided to use them in the theater when the sound is too loud. Now he uses them anytime the noise is too much. They filter out background/ambient noise, but allow voices to be heard. He's going to purchase Bose Hearing Aids soon ($500-600) since they fit in the ear, have no cords, and will help him hear better. They are rechargeable, so there are no batteries too replace. You may want to look at those to see if they are helpful for you. They are the direction hearing aids are headed now and are far less expensive than the old hearing aids $3000-6000).

I also want to thank you for your caring communicationso to those in need. I always feel comforted and loved when I read your posts. I also learn from your experiences. Thank you Mamacita from deep in my heart.

@@@Oh Dear, Sometimes there is no explanation for things... BF mom just had a stroke. He is on his way 1.5 hrs away. I am here with his daughter. I am hoping this ends better than I expect She is the only semi sane relative he has. I am going to explain to her not in so many words I will be leaving this time for sure. She can visit, she is going to want to see our puppy. She will be coming with me. Dad and her can stay in the house until they find somewhere to live. This is extremely complicated. We work together also. I can't even begin to figure out all of this. Or even think about it. He calls me a"runner". Well buddy I have good reason to run and should have the first time I threatened to do so.
Only then will I come back and proceed to sell this place and get the heck away from this area entirely.
I will be here with his daughter until he returns. Could be several hours. I am lining up a rental car to pick me up in the morning. He has my truck, he can keep until I am away and safe. I am watching my back..

This seems really insignificant incident this afternoon while picking up his daughter but maybe not?? I saw a blue jay bullying a circle of little birds, I made the comment about the blue jay being a bully. BF proceeds to ask "Are you the little birds or the bully?" "You don't even know do you" Then we almost ran in the back of someone. The guy is pissed at BF and staring. All BF can do is shout "I am a good person you F with me I'm coming after you. You will pay" Why am I only now reading and hearing through all these phrases now? He has been like this.... It's like my eyes just opened a few days ago.
Yes, my husband may be here steering me in the right direction... I know he loved me. As I did him, He was a good man.,He always called me naive and would say "You can't help everybody, you cant save the world." I get the message now?? Really? Talk about a delayed reaction. Geez, I have to smile or lose it.....God Love Him!

I called my doctor to lengthen the taper. I have been taking half of the 25 mg. every other day. So I am 25mg 12.5mg then 25mg...... so on. .I need to keep this straight head right now. I also take hemp oil, the real is not legal here. It seems to be helping along with the vitamins. I may need something more during all this. Hopefully not. I will keep posted. Trying to stay as strong and level headed as I can.

Thank You, Thank You

Take care, love. To thine own self be true.

I am terribly confused with all of the drama and preaching in some of the comments. When in a situation such as being described turns into high drama in the comments I shudder to think what the situation is or may become. Remaining calm in these type of situations is imperative. I have only been reading the comments some of which are scaring me as to resolving things
No longer following this thread and leave with a heavy heart for those dealing with this in the real world.
Keeping a level head is the important thing.
There is a child trapped in this adult world and it makes me very sad. Abuse hurts no matter what age.

@parus We each must do what is most comfortable for us as an individual. As an autie, I feel on a deep level, and often insert myself into a situation that I am not part of, from a distance. It is like donning the cloak of the players in that I am myself but inside I am reacting to what is going on. Meanwhile on the outside it all appears "normal". I believe that the reactions you have seen from posts on here are many visceral responses to attacks we have gone through ourselves. We are trying to spare someone else from experiencing the same heartache. Hope this makes some sense.
Have a peace-filled day,
Ginger

I just realized that most of what I do is to protect others.""To spare someone else from experiencing the same heartache". The same brokenness. As a St Louis Missouri City health inspector I protected others. Then I got caught got in a gang thing. They didn't kill me. Eventually let me go.

@parus We each must do what is most comfortable for us as an individual. As an autie, I feel on a deep level, and often insert myself into a situation that I am not part of, from a distance. It is like donning the cloak of the players in that I am myself but inside I am reacting to what is going on. Meanwhile on the outside it all appears "normal". I believe that the reactions you have seen from posts on here are many visceral responses to attacks we have gone through ourselves. We are trying to spare someone else from experiencing the same heartache. Hope this makes some sense.
Have a peace-filled day,
Ginger