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Mental Health | Last Active: Feb 14, 2018 | Replies (28)Comment receiving replies
@amberpep Sounds like the place where I live. It is a roof over my head and thankfully a small complex. I live in the back and rarely show my face. There are folks that can be comfortable with lots of noise. I am not one of them. I don't see myself as better than some of the residents altho I am more respectful and do not make a lot of noise. Some residents don't even know I live here. The constant noise and creaking floorboards above my head, barking dogs, cigarette butts all over, dog crap not picked up, etc. I keep my doors locked and try not be on hyper alert. It is not working well. When I moved here it was senior housing. Not so now. They now pack into a family member's apartment. I don't know how they live like that. All of the energy they expend sneaking in and out they could find a job. Why? Mommy will still care of them. There are parents that are enabling. None of my business. This is the best I can do. Slovenly people I do not understand nor would I want to...
So, it was a peaceful community when I moved in and I do not have another move left in me. My adult children are doing well. They know I have little and I am okay with this. I keep my home clean and am not a burden on anyone. I worked hard for what I have.
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@amberpep Me too. I have told my 3 adult children that parents fail children and children do not fail parents. My children owe me nothing and not wanting to be a burden on them keeps me going. They know little about my abusive past. To think my own mother abused "my" children as she did me as a child still causes my ire to rise. What kind of mother can be like this?? To this day I have difficulties shutting her religious recantations silent.
I wonder the same about you as to living conditions Still fortunate as I have a roof over my head, food to eat, a car (old), no credit card debts, no longer pleasing others and crawling through the hoops of abusers. May get lonely. Lonely is better than abuse!!!
You said it parus ..... alone IS better than abuse. I was not raised in a "religious" home at all and only became a Christian when I was 24 and out of the house. This sounds really awful, but I think my parent's church was a bar!
abby
@amberpep It does not sound awful. My mother's church was a church. In some instances I believe they are one and the same. Waiting for a lightening bolt to strike me dead for stating thus. I am not religious (man-made) although I am spiritual. I do no know how a mother could be so mean and appear blue-pure perfect when not at home.
That is all-bp on the rise.
I've seen this same type of behavior in people as well. My thought is that a lot of people are so into addictions that their perspective towards their life and those of their children are seriously impaired They are just to "cloudy" to see beyond themselves.
Teresa
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parus ... you sure you're not living where I am? How can these people not realize that their behavior and their behavior toward their children will have a profound affect on them? I feel sorry for the kids, as angry as they make me, because they're the ones who will suffer this insane "lack of parenting."
abby