Reveal Trauma?

I'm hesitant to reveal the trauma that I went through. It's still a sensitive subject for me although it happened a while ago. If I do reveal it I'll probably be very vague. I guess I'm seeking advice on if I should open up about this.

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@amberpep

Hi Parus .... I know it looks as though some glide through life with ease, but ..... I'll bet if they "took off their masks" you would see a whole different piece of their story. I know that's exactly how I was. Oh, I was the perfect wife, perfect mother, did everything well (sort of like June Cleaver if you remember Leave it to Beaver), was social to everyone and always with open door and open arms to "help" those that were having difficulty. I was "perfect." (really????) Well, shocked was I when one day my therapist said to me .... "you know, I see a good Suzy in you .... we're going to dismantle her." WHAT? Isn't this how a good person is? I don't want to be different. Well, 15 years later, here I am, and life is so much better... I can be real, if I have to run to the store looking like a slob "oh well." I'm still nice to people, but I'm sure no June Cleaver ..... you won't catch me vacuuming with pearls and high heels. I doubt anyone really has a golden life, if really known. Take care,
abby

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@jimhd Fortunate we do not have the same therapist you would have a rival. Must be the English blood and the stiff upper lip thing.

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@georgette12

hi parus...well, please continue to do whatever helps you to feel comfort in your personal space. i wish i had magic words to make you feel better. i wish i could wave a magic wand for all of us. i just wanted to post this before i signed off. i send you virtual hugs and blessings.

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@georgette12 It is the thought that truly counts. There are no magic words, potions or pills. I have 2 things I say when in a difficult situation. "Can't change it, can't fix it" and "That goes on their plate, not mine". My own mantras and definitely "not" chanted.

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@parus

Memories can be a blessing or a curse. Some of each.

Jim

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@gailb

@underedwardstale2018

I just responded to your post in another site on Mayo Connect. I'm a Volunteer Mentor with Mayo Connect. It would help me and others to understand your situation better if you are able to share a basic idea of the trauma you suffered. BUT, you should only share that which you feel comfortable sharing. Causing you further trauma by reliving it will not be helpful to you and our hope here is to support you in finding relief. Please, only share what you think will help us help you.

Warmly, Gail B
Volunteer Mentor

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Hi, @theotherone -- thinking of you and wondering how you are doing?

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@gailb

@underedwardstale2018

I just responded to your post in another site on Mayo Connect. I'm a Volunteer Mentor with Mayo Connect. It would help me and others to understand your situation better if you are able to share a basic idea of the trauma you suffered. BUT, you should only share that which you feel comfortable sharing. Causing you further trauma by reliving it will not be helpful to you and our hope here is to support you in finding relief. Please, only share what you think will help us help you.

Warmly, Gail B
Volunteer Mentor

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@lisalucier thank you for remembering me. I appreciate it a lot. I didn't post recently. Although I am doing my best to hide my depression, my mind is blurred and I can't think well. I have not visited my psychiatrist for several months already. I feel it does not make any good. I can see she is not interested to listen to what I want to say. I don't trust her anymore. I feel down again, and it is like nobody around me cares.

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@gailb

@underedwardstale2018

I just responded to your post in another site on Mayo Connect. I'm a Volunteer Mentor with Mayo Connect. It would help me and others to understand your situation better if you are able to share a basic idea of the trauma you suffered. BUT, you should only share that which you feel comfortable sharing. Causing you further trauma by reliving it will not be helpful to you and our hope here is to support you in finding relief. Please, only share what you think will help us help you.

Warmly, Gail B
Volunteer Mentor

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@theotherone Many of us here can grasp what you are saying. I know I have been terribly down for quite some time. I am sad you are experiencing the same. It is a bummer when it seems no one near us cares. People are busy. those who do not experience depression cannot "get it" and oft feel helpless and also wonder why we do not just snap out of it. Good to hear from you.

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@gailb

@underedwardstale2018

I just responded to your post in another site on Mayo Connect. I'm a Volunteer Mentor with Mayo Connect. It would help me and others to understand your situation better if you are able to share a basic idea of the trauma you suffered. BUT, you should only share that which you feel comfortable sharing. Causing you further trauma by reliving it will not be helpful to you and our hope here is to support you in finding relief. Please, only share what you think will help us help you.

Warmly, Gail B
Volunteer Mentor

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We care about you. It is great that we all have each other so we are not ever completely alone. Have you thought about calling a distress line (if there is one you can access). Believe me, there are more people there who will care about you too. It is totally confidential and you can use an assumed name.
Best wishes ,
Ainsleigh

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@gailb

@underedwardstale2018

I just responded to your post in another site on Mayo Connect. I'm a Volunteer Mentor with Mayo Connect. It would help me and others to understand your situation better if you are able to share a basic idea of the trauma you suffered. BUT, you should only share that which you feel comfortable sharing. Causing you further trauma by reliving it will not be helpful to you and our hope here is to support you in finding relief. Please, only share what you think will help us help you.

Warmly, Gail B
Volunteer Mentor

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Hi, @theotherone -- absolutely remember you. Great to hear from you. That is really tough that your mind is feeling blurred and can't think well from your depression.

Sorry that visiting your psychiatrist does not seem to do any good -- that's very unfortunate. Would it be possible for you to look for another psychiatrist?

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@gailb

@underedwardstale2018

I just responded to your post in another site on Mayo Connect. I'm a Volunteer Mentor with Mayo Connect. It would help me and others to understand your situation better if you are able to share a basic idea of the trauma you suffered. BUT, you should only share that which you feel comfortable sharing. Causing you further trauma by reliving it will not be helpful to you and our hope here is to support you in finding relief. Please, only share what you think will help us help you.

Warmly, Gail B
Volunteer Mentor

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@parus @ainsleigh @lisalucier thank you all for your kind words. I feel so alone with my feelings sometimes. Those who never experienced depression can't understand it. Advices that I should overcome it do not help.
My psychiatrist is not interested to help. When I am there, she mostly talks about herself or gives general advices without asking me anything. And I am really not motivated to go there. I will try to find another psychiatrist, but it is so hard to find a good one.
I remember writing to Samaritans long time ago. We exchanged few emails. I can write them again. Thank you for your patience with me.

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@gailb

@underedwardstale2018

I just responded to your post in another site on Mayo Connect. I'm a Volunteer Mentor with Mayo Connect. It would help me and others to understand your situation better if you are able to share a basic idea of the trauma you suffered. BUT, you should only share that which you feel comfortable sharing. Causing you further trauma by reliving it will not be helpful to you and our hope here is to support you in finding relief. Please, only share what you think will help us help you.

Warmly, Gail B
Volunteer Mentor

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Hi, @theotherone -- please know you are not alone -- it definitely seems you have members here who care about you and are ready to talk to you when you'd like to chat. I do think it's hard for people who have never had depression to really grasp it, so having others you can talk to who "get it" is a great thing.

I think your thinking in terms of finding another psychiatrist seems wise. Would be great to have support and engagement.

Just so I understand, did Samaritan's have psychiatrist referrals available when you spoke to them before?

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